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MODERN AFRICAN WOMEN PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE IN ThE TRADITiONAL CALABAR FATTENING ROOM On AFRICAN REALITY TV! -FROM THE PUNCH NEWSPAPER,NIGERIAApril 20, 2013
Modern babes in fattening room
In a fresh and ambitious re-enactment of the Efik pre-marriage tradition, Fattening Room, six ladies drawn from different parts of Africa land in seclusion, writes AKEEM LASISI
At a time many people fear that the country’s many cultural practices are on the extinction plane, Fattening Room, a major bridal practice of the Efik People of Cross River, appears to have got a new lease of life. It will soon become a spectacle to be watched on the screen, through the acts of six modern ladies who have just experienced it.
The producer, EbonyLife, which has come up with some powerful reality shows in recent times, describes Fattening Room as an authentic experience set in the historically significant city of Calabar, also home to the famous Calabar Cultural Festival.
“The Fattening Room is unique to the Efik culture of Nigeria and is practised when young women enter a house of seclusion to learn everything a woman needs to know about running an honourable home, raising children that are as good as gold and managing to keep her husband happy and at home,” the company’s Director of Reality Programmes, Pamela Ofoegbu, notes.
The organisation believes that the time has come to discover the inner chambers of tradition that have always been reserved for women only, when six young ladies from across Africa enter the Fattening Room for the very first time.
She adds, “The ladies start the series in the strict Efik tradition and journey towards modern invention while always honouring their African roots. It has been an incredible journey back to time as we celebrate our rich African heritage on a beautiful trado-modern backdrop. Our ladies from Botswana, South Africa, Zambia, Nigeria, Ghana and Kenya emerged from the Fattening Room with a better appreciation of the Efik culture and tradition and also of themselves as strong African women full of value and worth.”
Just ‘escaping’ from the room are Roselyn Ashkar, a fashion model and journalist from Ghana; Sally Berold, an adventurer and freelance experiential marketing specialist from South Africa; Stephanie Unachukwu, a Nigerian designer and Patricia Kihoto, a singer, actress and radio personality from Kenya.
Others are Thsepo Maphanyanye, a publicity and public relations executive from Botswana, and Limpo Funjika, a business development manager and aspiring TV presenter from Zambia.
While the Series Producer at EbonyLife, founded by Mo Abudu, Priscilia Nzimiro, says producing the Fattening Room has been a wonderful and enlightening experience, with Content Director, Kenneth Gyang, lauding the treat as being engaging, the cast generally say the experience has been revealing.
Says Tshepo, “Participating in the fattening room has certainly been a surge of all kinds of emotions but best of all it has been without a doubt an incredible journey of discovery and a once in a lifetime opportunity of exposure to such a rich culture experienced alongside an amazing circle of young women from nations across Africa.Certainly one of my best experiences.”
For Limpo, it has provided her an opportunity to learn; and for Patricia, it has been a lot of fun although she concedes she has learnt a lot, even about herself.
Also says Stephanie, “I have had the opportunity to learn new skills in the short amount of time I’ve been here and look forward to the rest of the show and what it holds.”
Abudu congratulates all the participants and salutes the crew for the feat at producing Fattening Room. She notes, “It is a true testimony of ‘If you can think it, you can do it.’ As a team, during one of our strategy sessions about a year ago inTinapa, we wanted to develop and produce a reality show that showcased the rich culture of Calabar that is now home to EbonyLife TV and we thought what better way to do that, than the Efik tradition of The Fattening Room! And with the genius minds of the EbonyLifeTV team at work, we gave it a treatment that will simply wow everyone when it airs! We simply took an old Efik culture and gave it a modern twist. “
THIS SISTER WENT “BACK TO AFRICA” AND PROSPERED-GLORIASTENE AGBOOLA-HAS BECOME THE FIRST BLACKamerican GOVERNOR OF ZONTA INTERNATIONAL IN AFRICA!April 14, 2013
Once everybody has equal rights, we would have a better world – Stene Agboola
April 13, 2013 | 12:50 am
By OLA AJAYI, Ibadan
Mrs. Gloria Stene Agboola, the District Governor, Zonta Club International, District 18 is an American from Louisiana who is married to a Nigerian. She is also an active member of Nigerwives, an association of foreign women who are married to Nigerians. Here, she discusses various forms of violence against women and what her organization has done to reduce this abuse of the rights of women and girl child.
What is the contribution of your club to check violence against women?
Zonta International has a special committee that is concerned with eradication of violence against women. This is one of our major programmes. Recently, in November, we started a programme whereby all Zontians around the world had an enlightenment programme to educate people about violence against women.
Gloria Stene Agboola
In Ibadan, we had a long walk all the way from the Broadcasting Corporation of Oyo State, to the Nigerian Television Authority, to the governor’s office. Over 60 of us carried placards. We stopped on the way, talking and enlightening people on the roads and in buses about violence against women. The people got our message and this happened in 64 countries around the world.
In Oyo State, the wife of the governor, Mrs. Florence Ajimobi has a programme where she is trying to get a legislation passed on violence against women and we supported her and other organizations which are concerned about violence against women and violence in the home. So, it is one of our major projects and programmes. We are trying to end violence and discrimination against women.
Women make up half of the population in the world. How can you say or think that half of the population that makes up the world does not have the kind of human rights they deserve. We say that it is wrong. We think once everybody has equal rights, we would have a better world.
There are existing laws against rape. Are you saying the punishment against rape is not commensurate with the offence?
It is difficult to get those who commit rape prosecuted probably because the laws are too lenient. I think they should make the laws more stringent especially when an old man rapes a girl of 9, 10 years old. Those young girls will not possibly give consent. So, we need to make the laws more stringent and they must be enforced. Some laws are not enforced.
Do you solicit funds from politicians?
If anybody who believes in our cause wants to fund our projects, he or she is welcome. But, what we really want from politicians especially the ones in Oyo State and in Nigeria is to have laws that would make it criminal for anyone who commits violence against women and children.
It is not acceptable to beat and maim your wife or your children. It is not acceptable to prevent a girl child from going to school. What we want politicians to do is to have specific laws that would prohibit violence against women.
Every two years, all Zonta Clubs in Africa meet to plan on strategies to be used in advancing the cause of women in Africa. Over 3,000 Zontians around the world in about 64 countries are in the club. It is the time for District 18 to have a meeting here in Nigeria and we hope that the Zontians from all the clubs from Africa would come and we sit down for four days and plan on what we want to do in the next two years.
Is the programme specifically for women?
We are concerned about improving the status of women worldwide and we do this through our programmes. But that does not mean we don’t have men. We don’t discriminate. Any man who believes in our cause, that is, advancing the status of women can join us. We volunteer.
It is a voluntary organization. We don’t get paid for this. We give our time, money and any other talents or resources we have to further our cause especially when we are concerned with trying to outlaw customs or laws that prevent women from developing their full potentials. We are particularly concerned about the education of the girl child.
We are concerned about education of all women because they are sort of backbone for the family. If women are educated, they would educate their children and family and through them, we would have a better home and a better family. But they have to be given that opportunity because you find out that in many places, women, girls are not allowed to go to schools because they feel that they don’t need to educate them. They only need to get married and grow up somewhere.
But, that is the kind of idea we have to change because wherever a woman is, she would have a family and children and she needs to train those children. She also needs to rule her home and keep her home clean, feed her children, prevent them from contacting some diseases and it is only by going to school that she can know all these things.
If your club is not funded by anyone, how then do you get money because all these programmes you have listed involve a lot of money?
Yes. We don’t have particular funds except money we as individuals pay. We pay, we give donations, we raise money. For instance, the District programme that is coming up, we don’t get any money anywhere.
So, we are asking people to help the Zontians so that we can have money to do these things. We need money to pay for conference hall. But, we don’t keep such money in banks but used it to do our various projects. Zonta International has a number of international projects. We have six major international projects and three of those projects are in Africa.
It is not the zontians in Africa alone that would pay for the funding of those projects, it is all the Zontians around the world that would put their money together to help fund those projects. The project in Liberia has to do with obstetrics vesicular. Zontians have paid in amazing dollars through a United Nations agency to fund this programme. We, in Africa don’t have that kind of money. We have another programme in Rwanda which is an HIV/AIDS transmission from mother to child.
This programme also costs millions of dollars. The programme has been going on for the past four years. Another programme is on in Nigeria. We are trying to enlighten people on social norms and practices that are harmful to women and girls in the society. We still have other projects across the world. Every year, we put money together to fund these programmes.
RICHARD WILLIAMS-GREAT BLACK “BABA” (FATHER)) OF BLACK SKINNED BEAUTIES VENUS ATI SERENA WILLIAMS-ENJOYS LIFE ANEW WITH A NEW WIFE ATI NEW BABY!- FROM YNAIJA..COMMarch 28, 2013
Venus and Serena Williams’s 71-year old daddy has a new baby with a 33-year old woman (PICTURED)
Posted by Y! Staff Contributor
They say that you’re never too old to start over again. If you want an example of this notion in practice, you only need to look toward Richard Williams. The father of tennis greats Venus and Serena Williams has gotten a new lease on youth by having a baby with his 33-year old wife Lakeisha Graham.
How young is Richard’s wife? She’s only one year older than Venus and two years older than Serena. So, at least the all have something in common.
Lakeisha started dating Richard back in 2009 and the two got engaged later that year. They were married in December, 2010, and she now enjoys financial security from a man who is old enough to be her grandfather.
Richard was divorced from his ex-wife Oracene in 2002. She left the marriage after ending up with three broken ribs during a domestic violence incident for which her husband was never charged.
Richard’s son Dylan is only seven months old. He has two daughters and three sons from a previous marriage that ended in 1973 before Venus and Serena were born. The reason that Venus and Serena withdrew from a documentary about their lives was because it portrayed their father as a controlling force in his relationships.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Shahrazad Ali (born April 27, 1954, in Brooklyn, New York, USA) is an African-American author, responsible for books such as The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman, Are You Still a Slave? and How Not to Eat Pork (Or Life without the Pig).
How Not to Eat Pork (Or Life without the Pig), 1985 (ISBN 0933405006)
The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman, 1989 (ISBN 0933405014)
The Blackwoman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackman, 1992 (ISBN 0933405030)
Are You Still a Slave? 1994 (ISBN 0933405049)
Day by Day, 1996 (ISBN 0933405057)
^ WILLIAMS, LENA (2 October 1990). “Black Woman’s Book Starts a Predictable Storm”. New York Times. Retrieved 17 March 2010.
^ MILLNER, DENENE (16 July 1996). “WAITING TO EXPERIENCE MARRIAGE BOOKS CHALLENGE BLACK WOMEN TO STOP TARRYING & START MARRYING”. Newyork Daily News. Retrieved 17 March 2010.
^ Smith, Elmer (28 October 1991). “Marriage of Civil Rights, Women’s movement is sore point”. The Pittsburgh Press. Retrieved 17 March 2010.
^ Fitten, Ronald K. (3 December 1990). “Shahrazad Ali Points Finger At Black Women — Controversial Author To Speak At Paramount Theatre Tonight”. Seattle Times. Retrieved 17 March 2010.
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The Blackman’s Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman by Shahrazad Ali (Dec 1989)
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How Not to Eat Pork, Or, Life Without the Pig by Shahrazad Ali (Jun 1985)
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Are You Still a Slave? by Shahrazad Ali (Mar 1994)
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Things Your Parents Should Have Told You by Shahrazad Ali (Sep 1998)
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How to Tell If Your Man Is Gay or Bisexual by Shahrazad Ali (Sep 2003)
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