THE AFRICAN BACKGROUND OF POLYGAMY

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The African Family Structure (FROM cultural-expressions.com)

It would be a negligent oversight to examine the Afrikan family structure without making reference to polygyny (the practice of several women joining unto one man), which incidentally was first introduced into ancient societies by the Afrikan Woman. In the old days of Afrika’s glory the woman considered herself nothing without a man to defend her and a man was nothing without a woman and a family to defend. At this time polygyny was generally practiced throughout most of the world, a result of the Black Man’s cultural influence all around the globe. Polygyny or polygamy, as some call it, was adopted by Black Women to ensure every woman in the society having access to a man, whose primary role was protector, guide, provider and keeper of the realm.

As already stated, in these ancient Afrikan societies women were held in the highest honor and respect, the female entity was revered and oft-times worshipped as the Great Mother, Nourisher and Sustainer of life, the source of all terrestrial inspiration and the maintainer of revitalized life. This was the usual way of life in those wonderful days when the Black Man dominated the earth, widespread love, respect and affection was consistently demonstrated by the Black Man to the Black Woman. He delighted in adorning her with gold and silver often rhapsodizing to her in the most beautiful language (perhaps this is why sisters still love to hear a Black Man lay down some good “rap” even unto this day), the norm in ancient Black Society, where each gender clearly accepted and dignified their distinguished roles in the community with mutual affection and respect for one another. In those days of amorous joy Black Women delighted in dancing and singing praises to their men especially after they had returned from the battle (usually in defense of the homeland) or the hunt.

The family practices of the Black Man’s High Culture System began to deteriorate in certain parts of the world namely Europe and northern Asia when the Caucasian appeared on the scene. At first white Europeans with no real culture of their own, other than the insatiable love of warfare, tried to emulate the Afrikan in the practice of polygyny although there was no general change in his attitude regarding the treatment of the Caucasian woman. With the coming of syphilis and its wide-spread infections among the women of his race, which caused the largest percentage of the female population to die out like flies, the nomadic Caucasians leaving their bodies where they fell, the shortage in the already limited female population was intensified so the European shortly returned to monogamy, homosexuality and the wide-spread practice of polyandry – one woman, many men. In the European custom of polyandry one woman, be she mother, daughter, sister and in some cases a queen, became the wife of as many as ten or more men, included in this group might be her father, her son, her brother, her cousin, her uncle as well as her husband and on certain occasions, at the whim of the family head man she was made available for the pleasure of all the men in the community. The ancient Europeans said their rationale for doing this was an attempt to minimize the constant fighting and bloodletting of rivals over the limited amount of women available. It was out of this confusion that the patriarchal line of descent and the modern European system of monogamy was born. As a result of eventual European world domination many Black People and other peoples of color have been forced to adopt monogamy and in same cases rape and homosexuality as a cultural frame of reference. Subliminally this is one of the manifold reasons for the many traumatic Black Male-Female relationships in the United States and other parts of the world today. But in spite of this mental conditioning we as a people must join unto our own and through the proper light of understanding correctly put into practice those systems that will prosper and sustain us, insuring Our survival and longevity on the earth.

At this point a word of caution is in order. The above statements of historical fact – and it is an irrefutable fact that the practice of polygyny was the norm for Afrikans before the coming of the European – were not intended to denigrate or condemn those families where the Black Man and Woman mutually prefer a monogamous relationship, rather they have been cited to present the cultural roots, validity and obvious advantages of polygyny for Black families who wish to practice it today. Of course it must be clearly understood, especially by the brothers that this is not something you just up and jump into without careful thought and preparation, for there are great responsibilities involved. But those Black Men and Women who are serious and adequately prepare themselves through consultation, study and self discipline applying the practice of polygyny on the high spiritual plane of which it was originally developed will eventually become some of the most respected and powerful men and women in the world. It is believed by some Black Scholars who have carefully and painstakingly studied the societal structures of Afrikan People that the correct application of this system could be a mighty key factor in the economic, spiritual, mental and physical survival of Blacks wherever we are in the world today.

One of the main reasons why polygyny was developed and practiced by the ancients was to enhance the economic power of the family, community and nation. Wherein a brother might achieve moderately well in a basic monoganous structure, he could maximize his efforts a hundred fold with the right combination of sister-wives. Bear in mind this idea was first introduced into the community by the women of the society. The biblical story of Jacob, the reputed father of the Israelite nation, mentions his four wives and how the first two brought the latter two into the family. In this present Euro-centric dominated society which is adverse to our very nature, it is somewhat difficult for us to practice those traditions which are more in tuned with our cosmic vibrations. Therefore we must adopt the wisdom of the Kawaida doctrine which advises us to practice “tradition and reason” as we strive to create a new society a better condition and a better world. There is much truth in the old adage “Where there is a will, there is a way.”

As always it is imperative for us as a people to be constantly advancing in knowledge and understanding ever cultivating the habit of doing those things which contribute to our growth. Above all we must not allow ourselves to become stagnant or we will be like the sitting waters that provide a habitation and breeding ground for blood sucking mosquitoes which can be likened unto our natural enemy hovering overhead, ever ready to feed upon our spiritual being and suck out the life blood of our mind, buzzing about and laying the eggs of his degenerate society. Those brothers and sisters who may react to the above statements out of wild undiciplined emotion instead of the logic and scientific analysis of a sound mind which was originally created and given to you for the purpose of deductive reasoning, we advise; investigate and examine before you rush forward to condemn. Black People must be very certain that the concepts and decisions on the part of both male and female regarding the practice of polygyny are based on knowledge, wisdom, logic and understanding rather than negative emotional reaction. In light of this let not the white-mindedness that to some degree has infected all of us be a stumbling block to our progress as a race.

In raising this issue we are fully aware that humans tend to see into a concept that which appeals to their own personal desires, therefore we do strongly urge this subject be approached with the right mental and spiritual attitude. For it is our fervent prayer that we as a people may soon move from a position of weak powerlessness to our own proper position of power and strength on the Earth. Again we admonish those brothers and sisters who are desirous of practicing polygyny to study and investigate it well,being certain to properly prepare themselves mentally, physically and spiritually so as to avoid the emotional pain and suffering which is repercussive of incorrect and clandestine dealings. At all times the brother must be honest, fair, wise and strong in order for the sisters to feel confident and secure in the relationship. In light of the wide percentage gap between the Black Female and Black Male population, particularly in America, sisters should adopt a cooperative spirit, while seeking ways to remedy this situation. Every Black Woman who needs and wants one should have a Black man. Remember the survival of the race is at stake here, not our uncontrolled emotions.

As I review the great benefits of polygyny to our ancient societies I’m inclined, while at the same time considering our present position here in the western hemisphere, to propose that this way of life must be revived and redeveloped in this day but it must be done correctly and in harmony with good principles. There is much information and many living examples of this practice available to those who diligently seek it out. Again let us reaffirm that this subject was not presented to foment consternation or to cause brothers and sisters to throw up their defenses, “jump salty with each other” and become polarized into forming opposing camps but rather as a review and examination of a historical reality which has been a component of the Afrikan way of life from earliest times unto the present. We trust those few who may not be in agreement with us in this matter will not assume a hostile posture and discount all the other points of vital information in this book. And so with undying Black Love for all, ponder it will understand the true spirit in which it was set forth. Surely the Creator who revealed the divine light of understanding to our Ancestors in the past is the best knower and the best doer. Now let us consider some of the other sharply contrasting, irreconcilable distinctions which eternally exist between the Afrikan and the Caucasian.

17 Responses to “THE AFRICAN BACKGROUND OF POLYGAMY”

  1. Jennifer Says:

    If this a subject that women initiated due to circumstances occurring at that time, are you the writer, a woman? Most times I hear this subject pushed from men. And if I hear women talk about it, it is from the hopelessness of finding either their own man or giving into the constant infidelity of men. There are plenty of African American males in US society and throughout the world, however the mindset of men is not one of love for the Black woman, but of greed for as many women as they can get and exploitation of Black women for the pleasures of men. It will be a very, very, very, very long-time before we live in a society that is safe enough for women to allow a man to take more than one woman and not feel jealousy, pain, betrayal, powerlessness, and anger from the situation. When it has occurred, it has been initiated by men with the intent of lifting up men at the expense of women which is what your article slants at.

    Also in the Bible, Adam and Eve started as one man to one woman. Jesus speaks of one man to one woman. Only extreme circumstances had led to polygamy and we are no where close to an extreme situation in this society. There are many avenues for Black people to take such as truly using education as a tool to uplift us, encouraging our boys to take part in education, discouraging criminal behavior within the community, and fostering a strong entrepreneural spirit to increase our economic power in Western society.

  2. Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade Says:

    Sister, Polygamy still exists in the BLACK world(Africa) because it is a system that deals with the problems Black women face in getting a husband. In most human societies,both Black,yellow and white,women numerically outnumber marriageable men,so that there is NOT enough men to do around.That is why in europe and amerikkka you found large groups of single women,going from man to man. If every Black woman that wants to marry is able to do so there must be polygamy. In Nigeria polygamy is growing and it is the women who is fueling it,because she must get married,as it is unacceptable for her not too. What we have in amerikkka is not monogamy,but serial polygamy, marrying one woman at a time, divorcing and marrying again,while all along having girl friends men are not responsible to.All men,BLACK, yellow or white are polygamous by nature. Their physical nature makes them susceptable to desires for more than one partner. The Bible may start the second creation with Adam and Eve but the subsequent generations in the old and new Testiments are all polygamous.Jesus did not say one man, one wife,Paul did among others. But theirs was a polygamous society and it remained so inspite of Paul’s desire not even to have one wife!I am A SISTER WHO WANTS EVERY BLACK WOMAN WHO WANTS A HUSBAND TO HAVE ONE!I believe all this deceit about girl friends outside getting most of the goodies must stop! If my husband has many girlfriends outside like most men do, let me see the serious ones inside our house and let us share more equally. Let me be inspired by healthy competition to be the best wife I can be to my husband! I have been into polygamy in amerikkka with my late BLACK amerikkkan husband,and now am involved in a polygamous situation in Africa. Polygamy is a system of honesty and openess in Africa. The BLACK woman is protected from the abuse of loneniness and neglect.Black men in amerikkka are more in prison when in society and the white boy has insured that they are economically wiped out. No, Sister there are not enough BLACK men to marry in amerikkka and every honest Black man who can handle fairly more than one SISTER should do so to stop the heartache of the Black woman!Polygamy can be practiced fairly and in Blackamerikkka it is now the fastest growing marriage system,as the Rasta,BLACK muslims,Blacks into Yoruba,Akan,Ancient Egyptian religion are doing it successfully and sharing the capitalist burden, with 2 or more wives working along with the BLACK man, to contribute economically to their households, more income to care for the children and other needs.Polygamy can be POSITIVE,it can fosters good relationships between the wives, care more effectively for the children,and create peace and unity between BLACK men and women. Many examples are there in amerikkka where is working ,while so-called monogamy is failing!Jealousy in a woman is being overcome because the situation demands openness and sharing,allowing for correction of one woman getting more, from the relationship than the others!I overcame jealousy and love my co-wives as Sisters and every BLACK woman can learn to do so,for jealously is a sin and a negative, destructive human action condemned by every religion.The woman that overcomes it in her life has the peace that passes understanding, the unconditional love and forgiveness that gives her power for good!

  3. Prince Mangwiro A. Sadiki-Yisrael Says:

    Very informative sister. May YHWH Yisrael continue to bless and keep you. Shalom

  4. DG Says:

    This article or blog or whatever it is is truly a very pathetic attempt. If the basis for your argument that there are not enough black men by number for every Black women, then Black women should pursue other men. Blakkk men are not the only group of men in the world. Also, if your secondary basis is to pool funds to better support and grow families, you should be in support of polyandry and not polygamy, seeing as how blakkk men, despite earning far less degrees and pursuing higher education less, get paid more than Black women. So pooling many men’s finances would actually prove more beneficial the other way around. But of course, we know that is something you would never support because there is a very selfish reasoning behind this whole idea. It has nothing to do with the betterment of Black women or Black children and its time people like yourself stopped pretending it did.

    The attempt to brainwash Black women into giving up their self respect in order to worship blakkk men by black nationalists is truly disgusting and disturbing and it has been going on since the 60s when blakkk men turned a movement that was supposed to be about promoting the humanity of the Black race, into fighting for the manhood of Black men. I hope sisters open their eyes and see that neither whites nor so called black nationalists have their best interests truly at heart.

    • Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade Says:

      DG- ALL MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE UNLIKE WOMEN WHO ARE NOT THEREFORE POLYANDRY IS OUT! EVERY WOMAN WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHO THE FATHER OF THEIR CHILDREN IS AND TAKING CARE OF ONE MAN IS ENOUGH TROUBLE FOR WE SISTERS WHO PUT OUR WHOLE HEART INTO IT -IT IS NOT POSSIBLE FOR A NORMAL BLACK WOMAN TO ENJOY POLYANDRY! ACCEPTING THAT WE ALL SHARE ANYWAY,IT IS BETTER WE SHARE TOGETHER AND SHARE FAIRLY-NOT LIKE THE OUTSIDE WOMAN WHO USUALLY GET MOST OF THE GOODIES! AFRICANS FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS WERE OPERATING POLYGAMY FAIRLY WHICH BENEFITED THE WOMAN MORE THAN THE MAN SO TODAY IN USA YOU HAVE MANY BLACK FAMILIES WHO ARE DOING POLYGAMY WELL. I AM PART OF THAT AND THERE IS NO BETTER SYSTEM TO TAKE CARE OF BLACK WOMEN. IF YOU BELIEVE WHITE LIES ABT POLYGAMY YOU WILL CONTINUE TO SUFFER BY YOUR SELF. RESPECT IS WHAT BLACK MEN ARE LEARNING TO GIVE SISTERS WHO ARE LEARNING TO RESPECT THEMSELVES AND LOVE THEMSELVES THEREBY RESPECTING BLACK MEN AGAIN!

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  6. nicole Says:

    this was good info for me as i am preparing myself for a life if polygamy. i will continue my research for more understanding. thanks

  7. nk Says:

    i agree that being unselfish is key. i have much respect for myself and my future does for me as well as my two sister wives. the economic factor was the focal point for us to maintain the stability of the family an eventually leave america for africa;country not yet determined. it is a process to accept without the emotions is difficult but we are workn on it

    • Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade Says:

      AFRICA IS THE BEST PLACE FOR YOUR BLACK CHILDREN. I SUGGEST NIGERIA WHERE I WILL HELP YOU BUT ANY COUNTRY YOU MIGHT HAVE A STRONG ATTRACTION TO THE CULTURE OF ONE PARTICULAR GROUP CAUSE YOU MUST EMBRACE THE LANGUAGE AND CULTURE OF THAT GROUP TO BE FULLY ACCEPTED. SO MAKE SURE YOU TREAT YOUR 2 WIVES AS EQUAL AS POSSIBLE SO NO ONE FEELS NEGLECTED.

    • Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade Says:

      READ ALL THE ARTICLES IN THIS SECTION OF MY BLOG-POSITIVE POLYGAMY AND THE BLOGS I TAKE THEM FROM SO THAT YOU WILL BE PREPARED TO SHARE AND LOVE AND FORGIVE!

      • Marie Says:

        Hello sister! How do you deal with jealousy amongst the sister-wives? How do you ensure that the husband treats you all fairly? I ask because I think polygyny could solve the problem of every women not having a spouse. I would just need assurance that the husband wouldn’t go out and add additional wives that we do not want and assurance that he treats everyone fairly. Additionally, I’d need to push aside jealousy to ensure that my sisters receive the love they need too. I’d also need for them not to be catty, nasty or disrespectful.

  8. Sola Says:

    Greetings, I am an Afrikan wombman who is aware of the place Afrikan Traditional Plural Marriage holds in building an African Nation. I am actively searching for a qualified sister-wife to be apart of our family’s vision.

    • Marie Says:

      This is something of great interest for me as the ratio of African American men to women is problematic. As you know, in this country, the Caucasian is very cruel and unfair to men of the African diaspora. Our men are killed, jailed and discriminated against en masse. This leaves the African woman without love, affection, protection and provision. Consequently, we share men by default. that means, the qualified Black men are married, but cheat on the side to fulfill his desire for outside sex and to fulfill the need of the mistresses to be loved, held, cared for, protected and provided for. We are very desperate in this country for men. I’m not sure if I could be a sister-wife without proper training, but I’d consider it, especially if the husband is fair, kind, loving and protective of all his wives.

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