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THIS SISTER RECOMMENDS POLYGAMY TO SOLVE THE CRISIS IN THE BLACK FAMILY BY SISTER RUTH LEE TYLER AT ETEXT.ORG

September 12, 2007

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THE CRISIS IN THE BLACK FAMILY–ABSENT AND/OR
INADEQUATE MALES—-EXTREMELY INDEPENDENT
SINGLE MOTHERS

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By Lee Tyler P.O. Box 620763, SanDiego, CA 92162-0763
(ruth#1 lee#2) = ruth1lee2@aol.com =weekends
polyboy@delphi.com = Sunday afternoon thru Thurs
evening

She is black, dark brown, dark reddish brown—so many
delicious shades. Her skin looks like the richest of soils and I
wonder, “Is she Mother Earth?” She moves gracefully with
strength and purpose in her steps, unaware of her awesome
beauty. She turns and looks me in the eye and then
suddenly
smiles so radiantly I almost lose my breath. How I love her
eyes and her mouth, filled with kindness and gentleness—-
from which I never need fear hurt or unkindness. She
laughs and it sounds like music. We touch and my heart
soars. We embrace and I put my lips on her delicious skin.
As the Sun shines on her clean, soft and oiled skin I’m
fascinated by the tiny tints of red, orange, yellow and all the
browns that twinkle up at me. She is sooooo soft and firm,
so full of life! We look into each others eyes, hers sparkling-
—we look long and deep—and then a cloud of uncertainty,
self-doubt, personal fears, and haunting memories moves
across her face and the lovely pools of her eyes are troubled.
I kiss her passionately and hold her ever so close, wishing I
could pull right into my heart and soul. I look again and the
cloud has passed and her face is radiant. We two as one set
out together to face and deal with our world. She lives and
is loved in the deepest depths of my soul and my mind is
filled with wonderful memories of her and us—and my
heart rejoices.

Song of Solomon
1:1* ¦ The song of songs, which is Solomon’s.

[ The Black Shulamite to her friends]
2. He should kiss me with the kisses of his mouth;

[The Black Shulamite to King Solomon]
For your lovemaking is better than wine.
Your ointments smell sweetly;
Your name is an ointment poured forth:
Therefore do the virgins love you.
4. Draw me [to you],

[Her friends, the Daughters of Jerusalem ]
–we will run after you!

[The Shulamite to her friends]
The king has brought me into his chambers*—

[Solomon’s concubines/wives to Solomon]
-We will be glad and rejoice in you,
We will remember* your* lovemaking more than wine.

[ The Shulamite to Solomon]
They love you uprightly.*
5 I am black [as the raven*] , but comely, daughters of
Jerusalem,
As the tents of Kedar,
As the curtains of Solomon.
6* Look not upon me, because I am black [as the raven*];
Because the sun has looked upon me.
My mother’s children were angry with me:
They made me keeper of the vineyards;
Mine own vineyard have I not kept.
7* ¦ Tell me, you whom my soul loves,
Where you feed [your flock],
Where you make it to rest at noon;
For why should I be as one veiled
Beside the flocks of your companions?

[ Solomon,the shepherd lover ]
8* If you know not, you fairest among women,
Go out your way by the footsteps of the flock,
And feed your kids* beside the shepherds’ booths.

[The Shulamite]
12* ¦ While the king is at* his table,
My spikenard sends forth its fragrance.
13* A bundle of myrrh is my beloved unto me;
He* shall pass the night between my breasts.
14 My beloved is unto me a cluster of henna-flowers
In the vineyards of Engedi.

[ Solomon]
15* Behold, you are fair, my loving friend;
Behold, you are fair: your* eyes are [as] doves.

[The Shulamite ]
16* Behold, you are fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant;

[Solomon]
2:2* As the lily among thorns,
So is my loving friend among the daughters.

[The Shulamite ]
3* ¦ As the apple-tree among the trees of the wood,
So is my beloved among the sons:
In his shadow* have I [ecstatic] rapture* and sit down;
And his fruit is sweet to my taste.

[The Shulamite to her friends, the Daughters
of Jerusalem]
4* He has brought me to the banqueting house*,
And his banner over me is [affectionate] love*.
5* Sustain me with raisin-cakes,
Refresh me with apples;
For I am weak* from [affectionate] love*.
6 His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me.
7* I charge you, daughters of Jerusalem,
By the gazelles, or by the hinds of the field,
That you stir not up, nor awake [romantic] love*,
Till it* please.

SO WHAT IS THE WORLD LIKE TODAY IN WHICH
SUCH BLACK BEAUTIES FIND THEMSELVES?

It was 1995 and the Black women living in Bosnia,
Rawanda, Somalia, Sri Lanka, Cambodia and in Black
inner city ghettos are all facing the same critical shortage of
marriagable males in a patriarchal society where most of
them want no part of lesbianism. In 1990, it was found that
33% of all black males aged 20 – 29 were either incarcerated,
on parole, or on probation.>1a. I got more information
from a local newspaper>1b. 1.) Approximately 1 out of
every 25 black males is in prison; 2.) Between prison and
death, there are significantly more Black females available
for marriage than Black males; 3.) The vast majority of the
Black males in prison range in age from 20 – 40, with most in
the 25-35 age group; 4.) Most of the imprisoned Black males
will return to prison. Just this week (12/1/Õ95) it was on
national TV news and in the local paper that 6.8% of all
Black males are in prison. This means a very significant
number of Black males are unavailable for marriage or
parenting their children during the normally most
productive years (20-40) due to imprisonment or death.
Perhaps that is why only 30% of married Black females
have their spouse present in their homes, half the
Caucasian/white rate (57%); while 9% of the married Black
females have spouses that are absent from the home (four
times the Caucasian/White 2% rate); and 39% of the Black
females never married >1c.
[Footnote: >1a The San Diego Union-Tribune, 10/5/’95,
page A-5, quoting from The Center on Juvenile and
Criminal Justice in San Francisco. >1b Parade 8/13/’95;
Parade Publications, 711 Third Ave., NY NY 10017. >1c
Census Bureau/World Almanac. ]

One out of every thousand Black people is dying of
AIDS>1d making it the number one killer of Blacks in
America. The AIDS virus is currently responsible for
approximately on third of all deaths of all deaths of Black
men aged 25 to 44, and for approximately one fifth of
deaths of Black females aged 25 to 44, according to the
CDC.>1e In terms of numbers that means a death rate of
177.9 deaths per 100,000 Black men (18 per 10,000; 2 per
1000), and a death rate of 51.2 deaths per 100,000 Black
females (5 per 10,000; one per 1000).>1e That means
approximately 30,000 Blacks will be dying each year from
HIV/AIDS, a horrendous slaughter far worse than Viet
Nam or WWII! Condoms fail 30% of the time [see the book
by Doctor Lorraine Day, MD], and then on stationary
artificial genitals according to federal test results, so they
give very little protection. But when you add crack or speed
or other mind altering drugs to the equation, so the users
canÕt even think straight to appraise their risk or use them
carefully and correctly, then condoms canÕt even give their
miserable little 60% protection. One official in the AIDS
office of the County Health Dept. told me that condoms
have a documented 17% user-failure-rate (failed to protect
the user). And the AIDS rolls on through the urban Black
communities like the plague.
[Footnote: >.1d San Diego Union Tribune, ll/25/’95 page A-
8, quoting the US Center Disease for Control and
Prevention. >1e Associated Press in the San Diego Union
2/16/96]

The second major killer of Blacks in America, especially the
males, is Black-on-Black homicide. The third major killer of
blacks in America today is abortion, where almost as many
Black babies are being killed/aborted as are being born.
According to Beverly LaHaye of Concerned Women for
America, the original founder of Planned Parenthood had as
her original purpose the use of government funded abortion
to keep the minority populations small, especially the Black
population.

The Black population in America has increased very little in
the last twenty years, one % in twenty years, to the delight
of the bigots. Tragically all of the facts cited above (AIDS,
Gangs, drugs, abortion) mean that Blacks are killing more
Blacks per year now than the number of Blacks killed by
Caucasian bigots and the KKK during any one year from
1800 to 1940, to the delight of the bigots. In 1880,
according
to the census bureau, Blacks accounted for 13.1% of the total
population, whereas today Blacks account only for 12.5% of
the total population. One hundred ten years later and the
Black community has not yet recovered from the 1880Õs
13.1% (of the total USA pop.) drop to the 1895Õs 9.5% (of the
total USA pop.) that lynchings, Jim Crow, and Western-
Canadian-Mexican migrations caused in the Black
community. More than a fourth of the Black population just
dropped off the census charts during that time and the Black
community has never made it back up to 13.1% of the total
USA population. Not much chance given the present
circumstances.

This means a very significant number of Black males are
unavailable for marriage or parenting their children during
the normally most productive years (20-40) due to
imprisonment or death. This results in significantly more
Black females than males being available for marriage and
parenting children, many of whom are single parents
raising a family without a present or stable father figure.
According to the Census Bureau and Focus on the Family
radio program, 39% of Black women never marry, and 46%
of Black men never marry>.1f On 11/26/’95, Focus on the
Family’s Michelle said that the Essence magazine gave the
figure of 40% of Black women never marrying>.1f. We still
live in a racist society 20 years after the death of M.L.King.
Black females are not sought for as wives by a significant
number of Black males and non-Black males in America.
[Footnote: >.1f Focus on the Family (American On Line) ]

This leaves a significant number of marriagable Black
females with no suitable male to marry and help raise their
children. Normal young, Black females with affectionate
and passionate needs do not have enough suitable and
marriageable males for monogynous marriages so that
leaves neurotic frustration, celibacy, promiscuity,
lesbianism or bisexuality for many Black women. Through
ignorance, bigotry, fear of society, and bad taste the
wonderful grace, beauty, deliciousness, elegance, wit,
strength, charm and intelligence of most Black women is
NOT appropriately esteemed or appreciated, so you do not
find most white, Hispanic, Asian or Jewish males seeking
them as wives.

Most white, Hispanic, Asian or Jewish males would seek
white, or Hispanic, or Asian, or Jewish wives before they
would consider seeking a Black wife. Black women are, for
the society as a whole, seen a lovers and sex objects far
more than they are seen as wives and mothers. A saying in
the white community about Black Americans is, “Look,
dream, or fantasize but DON’T TOUCH! If you touch,
DON’T MARRY! Take them to bed but never bring one
home for dinner!” It hasn’t changed much since slavery.
The Black woman interested in marrying has a 40% chance
of never marrying, and the older they get, the more children
they have, the deeper their poverty, the less chance they
have of ever marrying.

Many single Black mother on welfare would rather have
her own independent welfare income with independence
from males, rather than have a man around who could
mess up her dependable welfare check. Lastly, many single
Black mothers never learned at home or in the community
how fragile the male ego is, and the last thing they want to
do is to show a Black male honor and respect as the man of
the their house. Many Black mothers, bitter and resentful
towards the men in their lives who they feel have wronged
them, with barbed tongues shred the souls of their men,
dominate them, belittle them etc. Of course the verbally
inferior Black male responds to her superior verbal violence
with his superior physical and inferior verbal violence.

What about that whole generation who grew up without a
positive and nurturing dad? They saw that their mother’s
men were transients without any lasting commitment to
them or their mother. They learned that men were not,
therefore are not, necessary to raising a family—-or at
least to surviving as a family. Many single mothers are so
bitter against the men who they feel have wronged or failed
them that the proclaim “Men! Who needs them!” and their
sons hear them and learn that men are not necessary, at
least not to women and mothers. They grow into men who
believe that they are not necessary to the women in their
lives and act accordingly, some even turning from women
to men to feel needed and desired, homosexuality.

Mothers are supposed to be natural nurturers, comforters
and supporters of their male children, but many single Black
mothers, filled with bitterness and resentment at the men in
their lives who have wronged them, dump this frustration
and rage on their sons using their superior verbal skills to
intimidate and guilt trip them when their sons are small,
and then bruise and batter their souls/egos when they are
big in their teens. So many of these women, frustrated and
irritated with their sons, day-in and day-out stay locked
into this angry mode and rarely if ever hug their sons, look
them in their eyes smiling and say “Son, I love you!” They
seem to be afraid that if they do this it will be taken as a
sign
of weakness and make it harder for them to control this
little man of theirs. Their sons grow up into men who feel
unloved with no real reason to live, and/or unloved by
women so when men offer them love and acceptance that
they need so desperately, they accept it, homosexuality.

Many learned from their single mothers that sex outside of
marriage is the norm——that personal freedom and love-
without-commitment is better than love with commitment
to and responsibility for a marital relationship. So what
role model did they have? The uncommitted, irresponsible,
selfish, self-centered transient lover-boys that many of their
mothers accepted. What motivation would such a male
have to feel morally and financially responsible for his
women or his children? Little to none. Is there any hope?

Some suggest finding support groups (churches,
fellowships, 12 step etc.) to help the single parent cope, and
for some that works so they can carry on a meaningful life.
Some find significant help from counselors. Some take
James Dobson’s advice by single mothers finding acceptable
male role models for their sons, or by single fathers finding
acceptable female role models for their daughters. Some of
these role models can be found on a volunteer or token pay
basis through one’s extended family, one’s church, one’s
support groups, local schools or etc. But these substitutes
lack the sense of permanent commitment, “I’m here for you
for life”, that real parents can give. Sometimes these
substitutes work, but many times they are just better than
nothing. Sometimes these part-time substitutes don’t cure
the empty bed blues, the absent parent blues. Even God said
it wasn’t good for people to be alone. There is another way
where there is lifetime commitment both for the single
parent and for their children. Please consider the following
ideas.

My Islamic and polygynist friend Rafiq shared that the
Quran states:
“….Several times in recent years the subject of marriage
was brought up in the International Shura (Consultative
Assembly) of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community. The
reason was that most Communities faced the problem of
having a surplus of girls unable to find husbands. The
problem is/was of course more serious with widows and
divorcees but also exists even with unmarried virgin girls.
The fact that this subject was brought up for consultation
again and again proves that in this respect the health of the
society could be/needed to be improved. During the
Assembly the Head of the worldwide Ahmadiyya Muslim
Community had inquired from various delegates whether
this problem existed in their local communities. All
representatives had to agree, with the exception of the
African representatives. As Polygamy is practiced in Africa
the communities there did not face any problems in this
respect.”

“As many Hadith (sayings of the Holy Prophet Mohammad
(peace be on him) show it is of course a great blessing to
marry widows and divorcees.. . .”
“And if you fear that you will not be fair in dealing with the
orphans, then marry of women as may be agreeable to you,
two, or three, or four; and if you fear you will not be able to
deal justly, then marry only one or what your right hands
possess. That is the nearest way for you to avoid injustice.”
(Sura 4 verse 4).”
Rafiq continues:”Sura 4:4 mentions the welfare of orphans.
To elaborate a bit further we can say that Sura 4:4 deals
with the welfare of the society. Polygamy therefore should
be encouraged when the welfare of the society demands it.Ó

“Another aspect of Sura 4:4 is that it mentions polygamy as
a natural way of life. It does NOT start with ‘marry ONE,
or two, or three or four’ but it already starts with ‘marry
two…’ From this fact it can be clearly deducted that
polygamy is considered rather the norm and not the
exception. One reason therefore to seek to practice
polygamy may be to fulfill the personal purposes of
marriage as mentioned above. However, another aspect
would be to contribute to the health of the society as a
whole.”

“Most of the prophets of the bible have several wives
[Abraham, Jacob, Jacob’s sons, Moses, Gideon, David,
Solomon, King Joash]. Islam is in fact the only religion who
has LIMITED polygamy to only four permitted wives. This
in order to facilitate the first rule of polygamy in Islam: the
equal treatment of all wives.”

Most single Black mothers/women would not choose this
polygyny option, preferring to remain unmarried all of their
lives —- having recreational sex, not providing a stable
male role model for their son, and not modeling a loving
husband-wife relationship for their daughters. But if a
woman’s situation necessitates it, if circumstances in the
Black community (as described above) require it, why not in
America too? In Paris France they have over 100,000
practicing polygynists, according to the New York Times.
So why not America? The Bible and the history of the
Christian movement show that you don’t have to be Islamic
to choose and practice such an option . In America, bigamy
and polygyny are illegal. Why shouldn’t ethically moral and
Biblically acceptable Christian concubinage be a viable
option for such a population (30 million Blacks in l990,
12.1% of the total USA pop.) with an obvious shortage of
marriageable stable and successful males, even in America?

Why couldn’t a wife, of any race, whose best female friend
is a Black single mom, approach her husband with the
request that they as a couple include her best friend + kids
as part of their family, with her husband becoming the
adoptive father of the kids of the single mom and becoming
husband to the single mom in concubinage (she becomes his
concubine by informal covenant and contract, in a ceremony
of their own design with the exchange of their covenants
with his wife as witness, instead of by civil or formal legal
means, since bigamy and polygamy are illegal in America).
The kids of the single mom get a committed and already
successful father figure, and the single mom gets a husband
with whom she can soul-bond and count on, plus she gets to
see her best friend a whole lot more. Real love can
overcome jealousy and envy, if they selflessly work at the
marriage, as you would have to in any marriage.

A compassionately cherishing husband, who consistently
compassionately cherishes his own wife, thus making her
very secure with him, should be able to come to his
compassionate and generous wife and ask her to
thoughtfully consider such a controversial proposal as the
following: “Darling, I’m very concerned about our Black
sister who is struggling as a single mom and having a very
hard time. I believe that the conditions in our own family
would allow us to be of considerable help to her in her crisis.
Please think about us accepting her and her kids as part of
our family, with me as father-figure to her kids, with me as
husband to her and her as concubine to me—-with lifelong
commitments for the sake of both her and her children.” Of
course this would follow the husband and wife having
thoroughly discussing and considering the issue in general
before any specific action is taken. It would take a very
secure wife to share her husband, but compassion has
moved people to heroic and selfless actions throughout
history. The real needs of the fatherless children would be
met. The real needs of an adult female would be met, who
had been sexually loved and who may have a genuine
sexual appetite with no one to meet it in a context of soul-
bonding, commitment and genuine caring about her as a
whole person.

*You can never persuade me the single mother lifestyles
described above are better than first, a one-honorable-man-
one-wife loving and committed relationship; or second, (if
there are no honorable unmarried men willing to commit
and cherish) a one-honorable-man-one wife-one-concubine
loving and committed relationship. My Black play-sister
Elaine told me the easiest thing to get, for her as a Black
female, is a hard dick and a panting male. I asked how easy
it was to find a male who would commit maritally and
honorably to her and her well being, for life. She got real
quiet and acknowledged how rare it was to find such an
honorable man. Given the choices of no sex, lesbianism, sex
without commitment and polygyny, she said it was
something to seriously consider.

*Since we, as humans, are basically selfish, most of us would
not be inclined to
participate in a polygynous marriage, especially today’s
modern woman. Most of the 40% of Black women who
never marry don’t want to marry unless they can have it
their own way, which would not include sharing a husband.
Broad is the way that leads to family self-destruction and
many there be that go that way; but narrow is the way to
family-salvation and a remnant few that are willing to do
almost anything to save their children (especially their
sons), their moral integrity and their feminine virtue will
make the hard decisions necessary. Some will find other
ways (support groups, counseling, a benevolent male
friend) to be the firm but loving and supportive mothers
they need to be, a few will be open to the polygyny option,
whether Christian, Jew or Moslem.

My large file below explores and discusses the way that this
polygyny, or concubinage, can be legally practiced in
America today.
For the documentation that this polygyny option is a Judeo-
Christian option in line with fundamental, evangelical,
orthodox and dispensational Christianity please obtain the
older document from
FTP: gopher.etext.org
name: ftp
password: your email address
location: pub/Politics/Essays
location: pub/politics/polyamory
title: divorce.remarriage.concubines.jesus
or request the newer/larger/revised file from
polyboy@delphi.com

Here are summaries of some articles dealing with the
subjects of blacks and polygamy.
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TITLE: Can Mr. Mombasa Keep All his Wives?
AUTHOR: Tim Stafford
SOURCE: Christianity Today, 35:33-34 Feb 11, 1991
This article deals with a conflict in the Christian church in
Kenya, wheremany blacks who are converted have several
wives. Originally the churchwould not baptize them, but
allowed them to participate in the church.Later, the church
and some members broke away from their leadership and
began baptizing black polygamous men.

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TITLE: Thinking the unthinkable: man-sharing: a startling
report from those who do, don’t, will, won’t.
AUTHOR: Laura B. Randolph
SOURCE: Ebony 46:136+, Jan 1991
The book Man Sharing: Dilemma or Choice, by Audrey
Chapman, says that man sharing is common in the black
community. This article discusses the emotional impact of
man-sharing on black women, and says that many black
women do chose this life-style because of the shortage of
black men.
————————————————————–
———-
TITLE: Shortage of Black Men may Force Alternative to
Traditional Family
SOURCE: Jet 69:33, Feb 3, 1986
This article discusses the shortage of single, employed black
men, and suggests that women may have to consider
polygamy as an alternative.
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TITLE: Woman Leader Sparks Furor about Polygamy
Saving Black Families
SOURCE: Jet 69: 38-39 Feb 17, 1986
Hortense G. Canady, who is the leader of Sigma Theta
Sorority, has created a controversy by stating that black
women may have to live polygamy because of the shortage
of marriagable black men in the community.
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http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/Hezekiah/p
olygamy.html
http://www.mainelink.net/~bfree/men.html
bfree@mainelink.net
Lanove@aol.com/ Lanove Homepage /Web Searchers

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AND THEN THERE WAS THE REST OF THE STORY—-
She is black, dark brown, dark reddish brown—so many
delicious shades. Her skin looks like the richest of soils and I
wonder, “Is she Mother Earth?” She moves gracefully with
strength and purpose in her steps, unaware of her awesome
beauty. I call out her precious name, almost to make sure
she’s real and not a dream. She turns and looks me in the
eye and then suddenly smiles so radiantly I almost lose my
breath. It seems as if she glows! I drink her in as she flows
towards me with her arms open wide. The face I see is
Love.
How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with
kindness and gentleness—-from which I never need fear
hurt or unkindness. She laughs and it sounds like music. We
touch and my heart soars. We embrace and I put my lips on
her delicious skin. She is so delicious it is hard to keep my
mouth off of her. As the Sun shines on her clean, soft and
oiled skin I’m fascinated by the tiny tints of red, orange,
yellow and all the browns that twinkle up at me. She is
sooooo soft and firm, so full of life!
We look into each others’ eyes, hers sparkling-
—we look long and deep and our souls touch—and then
suddenly it seems a cloud of uncertainty, self-doubt,
personal fears, or haunting memories moves across her face
and the lovely pools of her eyes are troubled. I kiss her
passionately and hold her ever so close, wishing I
could pull right into my heart and soul and bathe her in my
love, wanting to make it all right for her. Hesitantly I look
again hoping her radiance has returned and Yes! the
cloud has passed and her face is radiant again. What I see
in her face fills my heart. All is well. We two as one set
out together to face and deal with our world.
She lives and is loved in the deepest depths of my soul
and my mind is filled with wonderful memories of her and
us—and my Scotch-Irish-Welsh heart rejoices over my dark
Queen.
But then the memory comes slaps me back to the
reality that my beloved, wonderful, awesome, brilliant and
delicious Lynn is dead; my sweet, gentle, peaceful, and
darling little Beverly is gone; my radiant, super-mom,
wonder career woman, and precious Diane has closed the
door and locked me out; and my affectionate, generous,
kind, sweet, empoverished and three-kids-weary Paula
can’t make up her mind about us. My dark Queens are
scattered and distant. My heart aches, but, as with
Camelot, there was a time of sweet loving that gave me the
priceless wealth of those wonderful memories. But the
memories don’t glow, they aren’t soft and warm, I can’t
hold them, the voices are silent and their touch is gone………
……and I am sooooooooo alone without my dark Queens.

THE SONG OF SOLOMON

>>The Shulamite
“He should kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—-
for your loving is better than wine! . . . .
I am BLACK [AS A RAVEN], but lovely . . .
because the sun has looked upon me. . . .”
>>Solomon
Behold, you are fair, my beloved companion!
Behold, you are fair!
You have dove’s eyes.
>>The Shulamite
Behold, you are handsome, my beloved!
Yes, pleasant! . . . .
His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me. . . .
>>Solomon
How fair is your loving,
My sister, my spouse!
How much better than wine is your loving,
And the fragrance of your perfumes
Than all spices!
Your lips, O my spouse,
Drip as the honeycomb;
Honey and milk are under your tongue;
And the fragrance of your garments
Is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
A garden* enclosed
Is my sister, my spouse, . . . .
>>The Shulamite
My beloved should come to his garden*
And eat its pleasant fruits.
>>Solomon
I have come to my garden*,
my sister, my spouse . . .
>> The Shulamite
My beloved is WHITE AND RUDDY,
Chief among ten thousand.
His head is like the fines gold;
His locks wavy,
And BLACK AS A RAVEN. . . .
>>Solomon
How fair and how pleasant you are,
O love, with your delights!
This stature of yours is like a palm tree
And your breasts like its clusters.
I said ‘I will go up to the palm tree,
I will take hold of its branches.’
Your breasts should be like clusters of the vine,
The fragrance of your breath like apples,
And the roof of your mouth like the best wine.
>>The Shulamite
I am my beloved’s
And his desire is toward me.
Come, my beloved,
We should get up early to the vineyards;
There I will give you my loving. . . .
His left hand is under my head,
And his right hand embraces me. . .
[Beloved], set me as a seal upon your heart,
As a seal upon your arm;
For love is as strong as death, . . . .
Many waters cannot quench love,
Nor can the floods drown it.
If a man would give for love
All the wealth of his house,
It would be utterly despised. . . .
I am a wall,
And my breasts like towers;
Then I became in his eyes
As one who found peace. . . ” Song of Solomon

“Your fountain should be blessed, and rejoice with the wife
of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, her
breasts should satisfy you at all times; and always be
intoxicated-orgasmic-enraptured with her loving. Proverbs
5:18,19
“Go, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a
merry heart; For God has already accepted your works. Let
your garments always be white, and let your head lack no
oil. All the days of your vain life which He has given you
under the sun live joyfully with the wife whom you love, all
your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in
the labor which you perform under the sun.” Ecclesiastes
9:7,8,9
“Wives, [if you don’t want to go along with something your
husbands ask, and going along with them would not be
morally wrong or spiritually an error, then deny yourselves
and] submit [yourselves] to your own husbands, as [you
often deny yourselves to submit yourselves] to the
Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ
is head of the church . . . Husbands, compassionately cherish
your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave
Himself for it . . . each one of you in particular should so
compassionately cherish his own wife as h imself, and let
the wife see that she respects her husband.”Ephesians 5:22-
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BLACKAMERIKKKAN JEWS IN ISRAEL BY RELIGIONNEWS.COM

September 8, 2007

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Reuters, July 29, 2003
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By Dan Williams

JERUSALEM, July 29 — Israel has granted permanent resident status to the ‘’Black Hebrews,’’ a group claiming descent from the Bible’s lost tribes, after a 34-year struggle for recognition, an Interior Ministry spokeswoman said on Tuesday.

Also known as the African Israelites, the sect was founded by 39 U.S.-born blacks in 1969. Its members previously had only temporary resident status in the Jewish state.

About 2,500 Black Hebrews based in the desolate desert town of Dimona will now be able to serve in Israel’s military and vote in municipal elections. Under Israeli law, permanent residents can usually apply for citizenship after five years.

‘’We have been in talks with the government for years, so the decision is a nice surprise,’’ sect spokeswoman Yaffa Bat-Gavriel said.

Under Israel’s ‘’law of return,’’ people considered Jews according to rabbinical codes are eligible for immediate citizenship. The law does not cover those born to illegal or temporary residents in Israel.

Practising a strict version of kibbutz-style collectivism and Old Testament ethics — including polygamy and veganism — the Black Hebrews are not recognised as Jews by Israel’s rabbinate.

The Black Hebrews believe they are descended from one of ancient Israel’s 10 lost tribes by way of Africa and the slave routes to America, an account most scholars dismiss as myth.

Several sect members were deported as illegal residents in the 1970s, but authorities avoided a large-scale crackdown, citing concern the Jewish state would be accused internationally of racial discrimination.

A government initiative in the 1990s to settle the Black Hebrews’ residency status lagged under interior ministers from ultra-Orthodox religious parties. But current Interior Minister Avraham Poraz of the secularist Shinui party has vowed to liberalise the country’s naturalisation policies.

The Black Hebrews strongly support Zionism. Their musicians entertained Israeli troops during the 1973 Middle East war and represented the country at the 1998 Eurovision song contest.

The sect’s demand for recognition was bolstered by public sympathy after a Palestinian militant shot dead a member who was singing at a bat mitzva — a Jewish girl’s coming-of-age ceremony — in the Israeli town of Hadera in January 2002.

POLYGAMY AMONG THE BLACKamerikkkan JEWS WHO MIGRATED TO ISRAEL BY PAMELA FERHINARD.COM

September 8, 2007

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Miami Herald, The (FL)
December 6, 1991

THE DOOR OPENS AFTER YEARS OF DISPUTE, BLACK HEBREWS FIND SALVATION IN A TRUCE WITH ISRAELI GOVERNMENT

PAMELA FERDINAND Herald Staff Writer

Alta Stevenson hustles from kitchen to counter to table and back again as she tends to patrons in a one-room vegetarian restaurant.

“Sometimes there’s a line at the door,” she says in English, smiling and slightly exasperated. “See how busy we are?” It is the exasperation of waitresses worldwide. Only Stevenson, 43, who came to Israel 15 years ago from Detroit, is not an average waitress. She is black. She says she is Jewish. And now her name is Cocavatiyah.

Cocavatiyah is one of some 2,000 members of the Original Hebrew Israelite Nation of Jerusalem — they’re called Black Hebrews — living in Israel. They say they are descended from one of the 12 lost tribes of Israel. They insist they have a right to live in the Jewish homeland under the law of return, which promises Israeli citizenship to any Jew who applies for it.

Israelis, however, have refused to recognize Black Hebrews as Jews. Controversies involving more than a dozen unrelated Black Hebrew groups in the United States have fueled Israeli distrust; the indictment of Yahweh Ben Yahweh, leader of the Nation of Yahweh in Miami, on murder conspiracy charges is among the sore points.

Now, after years of dispute, the Israeli government has agreed to give Black Hebrews a chance to legally live and work in Israel.

“I came here because when I was growing up, there was something missing — you know what I mean?” Cocavatiyah explains quietly. “Even when I went to church, there was something missing. . . . Then I learned about the Black Hebrews. . . . When I came here, I felt at peace.”

The Black Hebrew sect now living in Israel was founded in the 1960s by Ben Carter, a former Chicago bus driver and foundry worker. One account says Carter, now known as Ben Ami, heard a voice from heaven telling him he had been chosen to take his people to the Promised Land. His followers say they were disillusioned with the “second-class citizen” status of blacks in 1960s America.

In 1967, Ben Ami took a group of black Americans to Liberia, where they lived for nearly two years. They came from Chicago, Detroit, Philadelphia, Atlanta, San Francisco, Los Angeles and Washington. Their numbers grew, and in 1969 the Liberian government pressured them to leave. Some returned to the United States, but 39 followed Ben Ami to Israel.

In Israel, they were first detained at the airport and later granted permission to settle temporarily in an abandoned absorption center in the southern Negev desert town of Dimona. Many of the newcomers renounced their U.S. citizenship, then allowed their tourist visas to expire.

“As more and more people came, it caused some consternation,” recalls Zvenah Baht Israel, a community spokeswoman. “Israel has forever been in the state of asking ‘Who is a Jew?’ So, of course, if some black people show up, that just further complicates it.”

Relations were complicated, too, by Black Hebrew practices. Many are the same as other Jews: Sabbath, for instance, is observed from sunset Friday to sunset Saturday. Worship services include traditional blessings of the Torah, a scroll containing the first five books of the Old Testament. Black Hebrews circumcise their sons; many speak Hebrew.

But other practices are decidedly unfamiliar — such as the community’s practice of polygamy. Black Hebrew males are allowed to marry up to seven women. Ben Ami has three wives.

The conflict between the immigrants and Israel escalated through the ’70s and ’80s. Israel’s rabbis refused to recognize the Black Hebrews as true Jews because they did not have Jewish mothers. The Black Hebrews refused a proposed Israeli compromise — conversion to Judaism — because they said they were Jews already.

(On the other hand, Ethiopian Jews, often referred to as “falashas” or “outsiders,” are recognized as true Jews by Israel’s Orthodox community. It is believed they were converted to Judaism thousands of years ago.)

As more Black Hebrews arrived and remained in Israel illegally, the government began refusing entry to some black American tourists on suspicion that they were members of the sect. About 40 individuals were deported in 1986.

“The question was that individuals had overstayed their visas or were working in Israel without a permit,” said Immanuel Ben Yehudah, the Black Hebrews’ Washington-based spokesman. “That was the official charge, but some of those individuals had lived and worked there for more than a dozen years.”

Last year, a compromise was reached. The Israelis now permit registered Black Hebrews to live and work in Israel for renewable periods of one year. The visas also entitle community members to education, social services and medical benefits. In turn, the Black Hebrews agreed to reinstate their U.S. citizenship.

“The situation is not simple and quite delicate,” said a spokesman with the Israeli consulate in Miami. “They are not Jewish according to the Jewish religion. That’s why they cannot immediately become Israeli citizens. We have nothing against them and are trying to help them now. I think there has been progress already.”

Over the past few years, the U.S. government has given more than $3 million to Black Hebrews in Israel, according to U.S. Rep. Lee Hamilton (D-Ind.), chairman of the Europe and Middle East subcommittee of the House Foreign Affairs Committee. The funding has been used, in part, for housing and a school.

Hamilton calls the agreement an “uneasy but apparently durable compromise.” Nearly all of Dimona’s residents have been documented as U.S. citizens and have received visas, said Ben Yehudah. The travel embargo on visitors to the community also has been lifted.

Cocavatiyah, a former postal worker, says she is glad her community’s status is “normalizing.”

She has been working at the Eternity restaurant in Tel Aviv for five years. The cafe is simply decorated in yellow and white, with pictures of sandwiches from its creative menu on the wall.

The Black Hebrews are vegetarians, a practice that evolved as a form of preventive medicine, says Baht Israel.

“We didn’t always have access to medical facilities,” she says. “We had to look at alternatives. Four days a week, we don’t eat salt and four times a year for one week all adults eat raw vegetables. We fast on Shabbat completely.”

Cocavatiyah rotates responsibilities at the restaurant in Tel Aviv with five other women. When she is not scheduled to work, she returns to Dimona about 80 miles away to be with friends and family.

Dimona, a town in the Negev and in full view of an Israeli nuclear reactor, is now home to the majority of Black Hebrews. Other communities also inhabit the desert settlements of Arad and Mitzpe Ramon.

The landscape is arid and flat, an agoraphobic’s nightmare several hours’ bus ride from the bedouin markets of Beersheba and a short drive from the salty blue Dead Sea and the cliffs of Jordan.

Here, in a dark, cool sitting room, Baht Israel, 42, talks with a visitor about her life. She came to Israel in 1981 from Atlanta and her speech is peppered with expressions such as “you be praying,” and “shalom, sister.”

While the Black Hebrew dress code stresses modesty, much like that of Orthodox Jews, it resembles African tribal wear with flamboyant colors and geometric designs. Baht Israel wears a green and orange gown over an ivory turtleneck; American-style Docksider shoes peek out from underneath. Four fringes dangle from the corners of the garment, “symbolizing that African- Israelites are scattered to the four corners of the earth,” she says. Men dress simply in tunics with hand-crocheted caps, or kepote, but they tend to work in casual American-style dress.

Baht Israel says she sees a common thread running through her Baptist upbringing and her newfound faith.

“Although I wasn’t raised as a Hebrew Israelite, there were certain cultural similarities,” she says. “For example, when a woman is menstruating (in the Orthodox Jewish culture), she is separated from men. She doesn’t sleep with her husband or cook for the family. It is a time of spiritual renewal and her body is giving off toxins. When I was a child, in my household women were separated, too.”

Some of the community’s young men and women are too young to possess any American childhood memories. Shmooel Ben Israel, who did not want to give his former American name without permission from Ben Ami, is a 24-year-old construction worker who moved here with his mother 18 years ago from Washington. He plans to marry his first wife soon.

“At 19 or 20, we ‘come out’ into brotherhood or sisterhood and we can date with the permission of our parents,” he says. “People marry at all ages. Someone may have a wife or two in their 30s and want to marry again in their early 40s.”

Black Hebrew women say polygamy is liberating for them.

“A woman can do everything here but be a man, there are no limits,” says Baht Israel, who shares a husband and her child with his second wife and her two children. “We made the decision together about the other wife. If I’m separated because of menstrual activity, somebody has to care for him. Why not someone who’s a part of the family? This life style affords me time for self-development. I don’t have to be all things for everyone.

“My sister-wife is the sports person,” she explains. “When it’s time for basketball, she and him go to play and, shalom, shalom, I can go and read.”

Baht Israel says they worked out a system where each wife spends two weeks with their husband. The other wife, she says, “becomes a very dear friend and a family member at the same time.”

Economically, the Black Hebrews hope their changing status may be a windfall.

Community members earn money mainly by selling jewelry, working as domestics in Israeli homes or as construction workers. Now that many have work permits, they are hoping to capitalize on Israel’s growing construction needs.

Ten percent of each person’s earnings go into a central fund that provides food, medicine, education and housing. Currently, an average of four families share a household, says Baht Israel.

Administrative duties are divided according to rank. Brothers and Sisters are titles for the common members of the community. Above them are Crown Brothers and Crown Sisters, who run day-to-day operations, and then the Sahreem or Ministers, officials who run many of the group’s international outposts, according to Ben Yehudah.

Ben Ami remains the Israeli-based spiritual leader of the sect with his advisers, the Holy Council, also called the Princes or Apostles. They run a central office that handles economic affairs, negotiating work contracts for men who work in the outside community.

Foreigners who want to join the community must pay their own way to Israel, Baht Israel says.

“It has worked well both in hard times and in times when we were a little more prosperous,” she says. “We’re not millionaires. We get the menial jobs.”

Still, community members say life in Israel provides an escape from America’s crime-ridden society and what they believe is the oppression of blacks.

When asked if she misses her comfortable America, Baht Israel replies, “not really.”

“We were not self-determining,” she said. “It was always somebody else’s culture. Our struggle was to recapture our identity. We were denied access to our culture, and just look at the crime rates and life expectancy rates among American blacks. Finally, the thought came, could there be something else?

“We have developed a model for drug-free living, if nothing else,” she says. “People used to say, ‘What’s a black person going to do in Israel?’ But our longevity says something in itself.”

“Going back to the United States is our last thought,” says Ben Israel. “We have family there, but we came out here for a particular reason: to save the lives of our people.”

“FOR THESE MUSLIMS POLYGAMY IS AN OPTION”FROM DOCTORBULLDOG.WORDPRESS.COM

September 8, 2007

Pauline Bartolone, San Francisco Chronicle
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Clad in his Sunday sweatpants and a long blue Pakistani-style shirt, Ali, a 59-year old African American Muslim elder, popped in a DVD of “Big Love” – the HBO series about Mormon polygamists in Utah.

“Dude’s not handling this well at all,” he says as he watches Bill Paxton play an overburdened husband with three wives. “You know, I feel sorry for dude.”

Ali – who prefers to only use his first name – faces the challenges of polygamy every day. For 10 years, he’s been religiously married to two women, and lives with them under one roof in a working-class neighborhood of San Diego. Tuesday through Thursday he sleeps with his wife Hasanah on the first floor, then Saturday through Monday it’s upstairs with his second wife Asiila. That leaves his office, cluttered with photocopies of Quranic sayings and dusty pictures of relatives in hijab, as his only private room in the house.

“We get our time off, we got a sisterhood thing going on,” chuckles Asiila, 50, Ali’s wife of 15 years. She crosses her ankles underneath her overhead khimar, a black dress that covers her from head to toe. “To me, polygyny (polygamy) is for the woman. It’s really for the woman.”

This San Diego family’s life is part of a small but increasingly visible phenomenon of African American Muslims practicing polygamy, according to Debra Mubashir Majeed, associate professor and chairwoman of philosophy and religious studies at Beloit College in Wisconsin. For her research, she surveyed more than 400 Black Muslims and interviewed more than 15 polygamists.

“Most African American women who are into polygyny do so by choice,” says Majeed, adding that their reasons range from their interpretation of the Quran, to desire for independence, to needing a father for their children.

She says that a shortage of marriageable black Muslim men may be one reason polygamy is embraced.

“With the high number of African American men in prison, on drugs, out of work, or unavailable in some other way … the options are limited,” Majeed said.
-so the answer doesn’t include breaking the cycle of abuse and change?

African Americans are not the only Muslims who practice polygamy. Plural marriages exist in majority Muslim populations of Africa and the Persian Gulf states, and immigrants continue the practice in the United States. In May, the Times of London reported that as many as 1,000 Muslim men are living with multiple wives in the United Kingdom. There is no projected number of Islamic polygamous unions in the United States, but Majeed says the number of Muslim polygamists in the United States may be fewer than 1 percent of the Muslim population.

In a spring survey conducted by the Muslim magazine Azizah, 150 Muslims – mostly women of all lines of thought and ethnic backgrounds – were quizzed about their experiences with polygamy. Editor in chief Tayyibah Taylor said perspectives ranged from “it was the cat’s meow” to claims it was “tantamount to abuse.” The majority said success hinged on the seeking of spiritual enhancement by all involved, and the male’s ability to “handle” the situation. Taylor said polygamy among non-immigrant Muslims may be more visible because they are more outspoken about it.

Mohamed El Sheikh, executive director of the Islamic Jurisprudential Council of North America, said that many American converts to Islam, of all races and ethnicities, are already accustomed to having multiple sexual partners.
-Moral equivalency alert: apple and oranges, numbers of partners outside of marriage have no relation with numbers afterwards. Part of the marriage is the commitment to one and only one partner.

“After accepting Islam, some have continued this practice by giving the status of spouse to their sexual partners using the Islamic law,” El Sheikh said.
Most Muslims do not seek legal recognition or benefits in their plural unions, according to Majeed. She says that for many, “The religious importance will supersede the legal issue.” When polygamous Muslims do have legal unions, it typically involves the first wife.
-Once again we see Muslim’s hold Islamic law higher than man made law.

The daily practice of Islamic polygamy varies greatly. Most often, according to Majeed, the husband will take on two wives who live separately. The second wife may forgo financial support and a dowry. Other times, two wives may live together in one house and a third wife may come in and out of the situation.

Shiite Muslims even have a temporary marriage, or mutah, where a man may enter into a sexual union with more than one woman. The arrangement need not involve an imam and could last anywhere from one weekend to several years.
-any Muslim female who would agree to this is nothing more than a prostitute. You already know my opinion of Muslim men.

There is no consensus among Muslims about how polygamy should be carried out, although the Quran tells Muslim men that they may marry up to four wives only if he treats them equally and fairly. One passage implies that additional wives must be widows or orphans. Some religious scholars say the aya were written during wartime, and should be practiced only when there is a shortage of men.

Thirty-eight-year-old Azeez of upstate New York says the current shortage of eligible African American men justifies his plural Islamic marriage. The former Olympic wrestler converted to Islam 18 years ago and works as a technician.

“You have all these women out there,” he said, “and Allah has given a remedy to a situation.”

Azeez splits his week between two wives, who live half an hour away from each other. He fully supports his first wife, and is a father to his second wife’s son from another relationship. He says he didn’t consider taking on more than one wife, until he got a raise and the second wife agreed to help financially support herself.

“If it’s for you,” he said, “then Allah will make it easy for you.”

His 22-year-old first wife, who refers to herself as Miz Azeez, recently published diary-style writings about her marriage in “Polygynous Blessings: usings of a Muslim Wife.” Her love for Allah, she says, frees her from dependence on her husband.

“With passionate love, and the whole concept of love in American culture … They put (their husband) up to a status like Allah. Like this is their life source, like if that person leaves, they’re dead – that’s it, life can’t go on. I don’t have that type of love for my husband.”

Miz Azeez says sharing her husband brings her closer to him and to God. After a year and a half of living in polygamy, she says she would never live any other way.

It wasn’t as easy for one anonymous 53-year-old American Muslim woman in the Washington, D.C., area to share her husband. After they had five children together, he took on other women, a total of four on separate occasions. When the international entrepreneur married a woman in a Muslim country, the first wife found herself financially insecure and alone for months at a time.

“I was just not prepared to include another family in that struggle,” she said, about her decision to divorce her husband after 10 years of polygamy. “I felt forced to rise to the occasion, and I felt I as the current wife had some rights.”

Women have few protections when entering an Islamic polygamous relationship. The Quran says the husband must care for his wives equally, but there is no universal Islamic law or accountability mechanism to define or enforce that. Under some lines of thought, the husband need not notify the first wife that he is taking another, and he may even withhold a divorce.

For second wives not married under U.S. law, this can mean difficulty claiming financial support and legitimacy for their children, according to Kecia Ali, author of “Sexual Ethics and Islam” and assistant professor of Religion at Boston University.

“I don’t think polygamy should be romanticized as a solution to man shortage problems,” she said. “It is dangerous for women, in many contexts.”
The lack of state regulation of polygamy, especially in times of marital disputes, concerns El Sheikh of the Islamic Jurisprudential Council of North America. “The spouse and her children may not be entitled to many legal rights. This is against the principle of equality and thus polygamy is not practical in the United States.”

He adds that even the Quran states that men will never be able to do justice between wives “even if it is (their) ardent desire.”
Ali’s two wives in San Diego would disagree; they say their husband is a fair and just man, and they’ve figured out a family model that works for them.
Hasanah works full-time as a social worker and savors her alone time. Asiila takes care of her and Ali’s 10-year-old son, and “plays hostess.” Ali is the head of the household, spending most of his time writing about Islam and providing spiritual counseling.

“I helped him ship out and go get the sister,” jokes Hasanah, recounting how, 15 years ago, she wrote Asiila a nine-page letter asking her to join the family.

Nearby, Asiila pretends to complain. “You gave me six months with Ali when I first got here, but you won’t take them back.”
Ali, realizing he’s being picked on, responds with a joke that he is going to take on another wife.
“You have the computer,” says Asiila. “That’s wife No. 3.”

This story is one part of a larger “News 21″ reporting project at UC Berkeley’s Graduate School of Journalism. To see more stories on “God, Sex and Family,” go to http://www.newsinitiative.org/ucb. Contact us at insight@sfchronicle.com.


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