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BLACK PEOPLE!–YORUBAS!- JOSEPH FAGBOLA COMMENTS ON POLYGAMY IN YORUBALAND ATI KING SUNNY ADE’S ATI ABIOLA’S MANY WIVES!- FROM FACEBOOK ATI NAIJA.COM

November 13, 2014

FROM FACEBOOK-JOSEPH FAGBOLA

SUNNY ADS ALAYA REKETE (REPETE).

I can’t resist looking at the colorful pictures of King Sunny Ade and his many wives , not only because the pictures are fascinating and entertaining, but also because they remind me of my late father, Joseph Agbola Fagbola who had 6 wives and 10 concubines. That was the vogue up till the late 1950s and even early 1960s. It was a way of measuring success, and a life well-spent. Ijesa people will refer to a man with so many wives as ‘ALAYA REKETE’ (REPETE). This has only become inelegant in the face of improved healthcare with reduced infant mortality rate, as well as our stagnant economy with its attendant human misery of galloping inflation, skyrocketing unemployment, moral decadence and spiritual withering. But with people like Sunny Ade who is in the showmanship business, lewd and lascivious, as well as hedonistic living are all part of the trade mark of that type of occupation. An eloquent testimony to this could be found in the high velocity of divorce rate in Hollywood and Nollywood. The rate of divorce in those places is vivid in the thrilling and exciting novels of Jackie Collins, such as HOLLYWOOD DIVORCES, HOLLYWOOD WIVES-The New Generation Lethal Seduction, etc

I believe the pictures have not shown all ladies with whom Sunny Ads has relationship. Of course reference is made to all the ladies paraded here as official ones. It is like making reference to late Simbiat, late Kudirat, Bisi and Doyin as official wives of late business-mogul and ace politician, M K O Abiola. There are hundreds of other ones bearing his name today. I happen to know that the first wife of Sunny Ade, Abike (knee Akeredolu-Ale), is not shown in the pictures under reference. She and 3 of her brothers-Prof Ekundayo, Tunji, and Yomi-were my schoolmates at the Bishop Oluwole Memorial School (BOMS), Agege in the early 1950s.

Sunny Ade has not disclosed the number of his kids. This is either because the number is explosive and mind-boggling or because in Yoruba tradition ‘a ki i is omo f’olomo’ meaning we are forbidden from counting the number of children

SUNNY ADE ride on please!

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FROM NAIJA.COM

Photos: Meet King Sunny Ade’s 7 ‘Official’ Wives

Not many know that Nigerian musician, singer-songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, and pioneer of modern world music, King Sunny Ade has about seven ‘official’ wives.

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The 68-year-old Osogbo born musician who can be classed as one of the most influential musicians of all time recently made it known that he doesn’t even know how many children he has but has decided to stop having them. This is evident, because all these ‘official’ wives have children for the Ondo-state royal blood.

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With insinuations that he has other wives who can be referred to as ‘unofficial’, the internationally relevant musician whose real names are Sunday Adeniyi can be said to still be in the age-long culture of polygamy.

King Sunny Ade’s musical sound has evolved from the early days. His career began with Moses Olaiya’s Federal Rhythm Dandies, a highlife band. He left to form a new band, The Green Spots, in 1967. Over the years, for various reasons ranging from changes in his music to business concerns, Sunny Adé’s band changed its name several times, first to African Beats and then to Golden Mercury.

He has worked with foreign music stars and has gained an unquestionable ground internationally. Here are photos of the ace musician’s seven ‘official’ wives:

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Meanwhile, at the beginning of another round of tour of the United States and Canada, Sunny Adé was appointed a visiting professor of music at the Obafemi Awolowo University Ile-Ife. In July the same year King Sunny Adé was inducted into the Afropop Hall of Fame, at the Brooklyn African Festival in the United States. He dedicated the award to the recently deceased Michael Jackson.

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POLYGAMY!-THIS SOUTH AFRICAN BROTHER MARRIED 4 WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME LIKE OUR GREAT NIGERIAN FELA DID!-BUT FELA MARRIED 27 WIVES AT THE SAME TIME!-INSTEAD OF GIRL FRIENDS GETTING PREGNANT AND BEING SENT FOR ABORTION THIS BLACK MAN IS BEING RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL HIS LOVES!

September 6, 2010

BBCNEWS.COM

SA man’s mass wedding ‘saved money’

By Pumza Fihlani
BBC News, Durban

South African businessman Milton Mbele broke all the traditional rules of a polygamous wedding when he recently married four women on the same day.

The four brides dressed in flowing white gowns walked down the aisle together, before saying “We do” to the 44-year-old groom.

Mr Mbele says he didn’t marry them purely for the spectacle but also because it made financial sense.

“I don’t know how much four different weddings would have cost me but I know doing it all at once saved money,” he explains.

“For example I only needed one tent, I needed to hire one caterer and one photographer for the entire ceremony.”

If I feel like taking another wife this is something that will be in the open

Milton Mbele
“I began putting money aside for the event towards the end of 2007 and started collecting quotes for things like the tent and catering costs early last year.”

He says he loves all his wives – Thobile Vilakazi, Zanele Langa, Baqinisile Mdlolo and Smangele Cele – equally and also treats them that way.

Mr Mbele himself wears four rings on his finger – he says this is a sign of his commitment to all his wives.

The wives say they were shocked by the news that Mr Mbele wanted to marry them at once but add that they agreed because they love him.

Some two weeks after their much publicised two-day ceremony, Mr Mbele says he is overwhelmed by all the attention his wedding has attracted.

I met Mr Mbele and Smangele, at 23 the youngest Mrs Mbele, at a hotel in Durban – the pair were set to do a radio interview with a national radio station the next day.

‘Our culture’

In their hotel room the pair sat comfortably on the bed while taking questions about their big day.

Mr Mbele, a Zulu businessman and municipal manager, says polygamy is still very much part of Zulu tradition.

Milton Mbele has four wedding rings
“This is a proud part of our culture. It has been practised for generations before us.”

“My grandfather himself had three wives,” says Mr Mbele, quickly adding that he isn’t blindly following in his grandfather’s footsteps.

“I prefer polygamy to having many girlfriends which is what some married men do,” he says.

“If I love more than one woman, I would rather make it known to the other women in my life and make it official.

“If I feel like taking another wife this is something that will be in the open and my wives would know,” he says.

President Jacob Zuma, also a Zulu, has three wives.

But the practice has been met with criticism.

Inside polygamy

Some point out that it does not afford equal rights to men and women.

Women are not allowed to wed more than one husband, while a man can have as many wives as he wishes.

There are seven days in a week and I have four wives. I will take turns visiting them and use the remaining three days to rest

Milton Mbele
In a polygamous marriage only the first wife is legally recognised, which could pose some difficulties in dividing the husband’s estate when he dies.

South Africa has the highest number of HIV-positive people in the world – some five million.

Since having more than one sexual partner increases the chances of contracting the virus, it is understandable that Smangele’s family had reservations about her entering into a polygamous marriage.

“My family was not pleased at first but they came around eventually,” she says.

They are taking the necessary precautions, which include regular HIV tests.

“I had my last test a few months ago when I was pregnant. We are all disciplined about staying healthy,” she says.

The arrangements seem to have been carefully thought out down to the last detail, including how Mr Mbele will alternate between his four wives, who all live in different parts of northern KwaZulu-Natal province.

“There are seven days in a week and I have four wives. I will take turns visiting them and use the remaining three days to rest,” he says.

At this point Smangele, who has been quiet with her head bowed until now, looks up and smiles at her husband.

The second day of the wedding was a traditional Zulu wedding ceremony
When asked how she feels about Mr Mbele’s visitation plan she quickly responds.

“I believe it will work. I am used to living on my own and having him visit me on certain days so this won’t be anything new to us,” she says, reaching for her husband’s hand.

In fact, Mr Mbele has already been in relationships with his new wives for several years.

He has three children with “first wife” Thobile, two with “wife-number-two” Zanele, one child with Baqinisile, referred to as “wife-number-three” and two children with “youngest wife” Smangele.

He also has three children from a previous relationship.

Mr Mbele is the breadwinner in all his homes – none of his wives is employed. They say they are happy to be provided for by their husband.

He owns 100 cows and 250 goats and has a good job, so he is relatively wealthy, at least by traditional standards.

‘Why we love him’

Earlier in the day, I spoke to Baqinisile, who lives in a large home which she says was a gift from her husband.

The yard has three separate houses; the main house is made from orange bricks – it is the biggest and only one of its kind in the small village.

The Mbeles have postponed going on honeymoon to save money
She welcomes me into her home and ushers me to sit down on luxurious cream leather couches.

In an area where employment and the luxuries it affords are difficult to come by, Baqinisile is living a life some young women in the area would envy.

Baqinisile describes her husband, who she met in 2006, as a fair man.

“He respects us and treats us all the same way,”

“When he buys us clothes, he buys us similar things. Also when he gives us money.

“I admire this about him because it shows me that he loves us the same way,” she says, adjusting her ring.

Both Baqinisile and Smangele admit they were against polygamy when they were growing up but have now changed their minds.

“When I saw what a loving man he is and how he much he values all of us, I knew that I would be able to share my life with him and everyone else,” says Smangele.

Although Mr Mbele says he minimised costs by having a mass wedding, he is still paying for it, so there will be no honeymoon for a couple of years.

But the entire Mbele family will not be going away together – he will take each wife separately in order of their hierarchy.

POSITIVE POLYGAMY IS STILL ALIVE AND GROWING IN THE MOTHERLAND AFRICA TOO!

January 12, 2010

AFRICAN DANCE IS IN OUR BLACK BLOOD!

GETTING DOWN THE BLACK/AFRICAN WAY!

WHO SAYS POSITIVE POLYGAMY IS DEAD? A BLACK MAN WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF ALL HIS WIVES IS WHAT WE NEED FOR ALL THOSE LONELY BLACK SKINNED BEAUTIES OUT THERE!

Zuma Formally Weds 3rd Wife in Zulu Ceremony
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By THE ASSOCIATED PRESS
Published: January 4, 2010
Filed at 12:00 p.m. ET

KWANXAMALALA, South Africa (AP) — South Africa’s president formalized his marriage to his third wife during a traditional ceremony Monday amid media reports he plans to take a fourth bride later this year.

Some 2,000 guests thronged a homestead in rural KwaZulu-Natal province to watch the ceremony in which 67-year-old President Jacob Zuma and 38-year-old Tobeka Madiba took part.

The couple are already married under South African law and have three children. Madiba attended Zuma’s inauguration ceremony in May. He paid a dowry to her family in 2007 as is tradition.

Meanwhile, a family member told The Associated Press on Monday that Zuma is also planning to marry again later this year. Other relatives have told South African media that the president plans to wed Durban native Gloria Bongi Ngema. The president’s office has not commented on the reports.

Monday’s ceremony included an hourlong traditional Zulu wedding dance. During the ceremony, Madiba performed a solo dance while holding a spear and a shield to symbolize her acceptance of her new husband.

Zuma, wearing a skirt made of animal fur pelts and sporting bright white tennis shoes, then joined the dance. The bride wore matching sneakers.

Guests dined on traditional Zulu foods, and attendees were told that more than a dozen sheep, goats and cows had been slaughtered for the feast.

Wedding guest Sipho Msomi, a cattle herder, said the wedding made him proud to be Zulu, the nation’s largest ethnic group.

”We love him because he is one of us and does not look down upon us,” he said. ”Zuma can marry as many women as he wants. It is our culture.”

Another guest, 28-year-old Prudence Khumalo, said she also supported the polygamous tradition.

”In the West is frowned upon,” she said. ”Here we celebrate it. It is our culture and we stand by it.”

Zuma, 67, a Zulu traditionalist and an unabashed polygamist, has now married at least five women over the years and has 19 children. He currently has three wives including Madiba: Sizakele Khumalo, whom he married in 1973, and Nompumelelo Ntuli, whom he wed in 2008.

He also was married to other women: Kate Mantsho Zuma, committed suicide in 2000. He divorced the other, Nkosazana Dlamini Zuma, in 1998, although she remains a trusted aide and is now the country’s home affairs minister.

When he took office earlier this year, all three wives were at the inauguration ceremony, but only Khumalo, his first wife, accompanied him to the main stage set up outside the presidency building in Pretoria. Since then, none of his wives has had a particularly prominent role, in keeping with the practice of South African first ladies before them.

Zuma’s embrace of Zulu tradition — including polygamy — has endeared him to many South Africans. Still, some consider polygamy old-fashioned and expensive, and question how it can endure in a modern country.

And experts say having multiple, concurrent partners heightens the risk of AIDS, leaving some to question what model a polygamous president presents. South Africa, a nation of about 50 million, has an estimated 5.7 million people infected with HIV, more than any other country.

Zuma is not alone among world leaders when it comes to polygamy. In the Gulf, the number of a ruler’s wives and who among them is paramount are a constant source of rumors.

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FROM bbc.com

South Africa President Jacob Zuma marries third wife
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Jacob Zuma performs a traditional Zulu dance at the ceremony

South Africa’s President Jacob Zuma has married his third wife, in a Zulu ceremony attended by his other wives.

Some 2,000 guests saw the 67-year-old marry Thobeka Mabhija, 36. The ceremony had been postponed from last year because of his political commitments.

Reports in South Africa suggest he already has another fiancee and his fourth wife may not be far off.

Correspondents say Mr Zuma’s belief in the traditional practice of polygamy has divided South Africans.

Some support him but many younger people believe it should have no place in a modern society.

Under Zulu tradition, Mr Zuma’s two current wives had to approve the wedding and attend the ceremony.

His new fiancee, Gloria Bongi Ngema, took umbondo (wedding gifts) to the Zuma family last week, reports say.

This ceremony is the last traditional event before a wedding and is done after ilobolo (dowry) has been paid to the bride’s family.

Hive of activity

Monday’s ceremony is Mr Zuma’s fifth wedding – he married his first wife Sizakele Khumalo-Zuma in 1973 and Nompumelelo Ntuli-Zuma two years ago.

MRS JACOB ZUMA

Thobeka Mabhija – married, January 2010 (above)
Nompumelelo Ntuli – married, January 2008
Sizakele Khumalo – married, 1973
Home Affairs Minister Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma – divorced, 1998
Kate Mantsho Zuma – died, 2000
He is also divorced from Home Affairs Minister Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma.

South African media reported that Mr Zuma’s home in Nkandla, in the province of KwaZulu-Natal, was a hive of activity in the run-up to the ceremony.

Large tents were erected to accommodate guests, some of whom arrived in a number of buses on Monday.

Several cows, sheep and goats were slaughtered for the wedding feast.

Locals including Mr Zuma were dressed in traditional Zulu attire – mostly made from animal skin.

When Mr Zuma was inaugurated as president in May, speculation was rife about who would be the first lady.

He has attended some high-profile events with all his wives, including Ms Mabhija.

Mr Zuma, who has 19 children – three with Ms Mabhija – paid ilobolo to the Mabhija family two years ago.

One of his earlier wives, Kate Mantsho-Zuma, died in 2000.

THIS BLACK MAN,IBO MAN IN NIGERIA BELIEVES IN POLYGAMY!-HOW THIS IBO KING MANAGES HIS 5 WIVES SUCCESSFULLY!-FROM SUN NEWSPAPER,NIGERIA

August 17, 2009

from sunnewsonline.com

ROYAL CONFESSION
• Why I don’t support one man, one wife and how I manage my five wives
By Geoffrey Anyanwu, Awka
Wednesday, November 28, 2007

THIS STRONG BLACK IBO KING CAN HANDLE HIS 5 WIVES FAIRLY AND WELL!

THIS STRONG BLACK IBO KING CAN HANDLE HIS 5 WIVES FAIRLY AND WELL!


•Igwe Kelly
Photo: Sun News Publishing

His Royal Majesty, Igwe Dr. Nkeli Nzekwe Kelly, the Okalakwu Igboariam of Okalakwu kingdom, is a traditional ruler with a difference. This is shown in his attire, carriage and the way he rules his people with love and care.

But Igwe Kelly, who has been on the throne for 16 years, has great passion for women. In fact, he told Daily Sun that his target is to marry seven wives. Presently, he has five wives who have given him 13 children.

The traditional ruler has been a lucky man as it is not difficult for him to get his women. According to him, all he needs to do to get a new wife is to just declare his interest and the woman automatically becomes his wife.
In this encounter with Daily Sun, he spoke about his kingdom, his scholarship, the agricultural heritage of his kingdom and other services to his people.

What stands me out
The only thing I know is that nobody is an angel. But I’m trying as much as I can to do what I learnt from abroad where I lived. And that is, to be straightforward in whatever I do and to tell my people the truth. That’s one thing that perhaps makes me special. I don’t know that I am special. But I believe my people love me because I love them, too. I make sure whoever I am dealing with will understand me, where I am coming from and where I am going. You will see my front and back. That’s what makes me special, nothing more than that.

Regalia
I have all the traditional attire from the various kingdoms, I have them in my kingdom. I have other attires because this kingdom emanated from Benin. Initially, there was only one kingdom in Nigeria. That was the Benin Kingdom. If you watch me sometimes during my Ofala, you see the Ibiwe. Ibiwe means the bead-makers in Benin language. We have bead makers here, they make my wears. Because during the time that King Oba na Edo ruled up to this area, we called him Oba Nidu. I have the history in my kingdom. What my ancestors left behind, I’ve gone through them. The one written in Igbo and in English. I have gone through them and I discovered that there was a time those people extended up to here. There was a king that came into this place and wore the same attire.

So, what happened is, if you want to know my real attire, come on my Ofala day. Other attires, I can change to Emir attire, provided it is a Nigerian attire, but you may not know. Sometimes, I wear attire from the northerners, the Yorubas, the Tivs, the Ibibios, the Anambras, the Imos and so on. So, that’s what makes my dressing different. But if you look into it deeply, you will still see some Igbo cultural wears or traditional wears in those attire.

Life is what you make out of yourself; you cannot depend on your father’s wear because fashion changes all the time. If you are wearing this dress now, if I bought this dress last year for about, let’s say, N50, you may not find that type or style again this year. And if you buy it, they will take you as one who is not current with trends. So, I have brought everything to this level.

Wives and how I choose them
Actually, I have five wives and I am ready to marry more. It depends, because my target is seven. But I don’t know: Life and finance will determine. That is, my pocket will determine how many wives I will be able to accommodate in my kingdom. It is the tradition. You see, one man, one wife, I do not believe in it because there are a lot of women in the society now. Even sometimes, women claim that they own your house with you, the husband.
It is not done; it is only done in England where the man contributes money to the dowry with his wife, contributes money for the dowry, for feeding and every other thing from morning to night. But when you go to a woman’s house, organise a big party, sew uniforms for your wife’s friends, your in-laws, extended families, then tomorrow, will somebody say she owns your house with you? She did not contribute in building the house. How does she own the house? So, that’s why I have my wives with me and they are living happily with me and they are okay.
I choose my wives as a king. When I see somebody I like and I say I will marry you, she will follow me, that is the end of it. Then we do the next things. I will tell my people this is my wife. I don’t go to oracle, I don’t go anywhere. When any girl attracts me or any time I see a woman that attracts me, I will say it: I want to marry you. And from then on, my men will walk in there and I will leave that place and they will dig it out, get the business done for me and bring the lady home.

Managing five wives
The more wives you get, the better for you in your house. If you have only one wife, you will have more than 10 problems. If you have 10 wives, you have only one trouble in the house because instead of fighting you, they will fight themselves. All of them will be fighting to get you, to get your love and attention and you will stay quiet in your house and live long.
But if you marry only one, even if you go out, she will say why did you go and drink? But when they are many, you can go and drink, you can even sleep outside for one month and come back. Provided you know you are not cheating in any way. It depends on the individual, because I don’t like cheating someone. If you are straightforward, then you can marry more. They will not be able to stop you. The more you go in marriage, but watch always your pocket, as I said. You must be financially okay before you go into such marriages, because it involves a lot of money, a lot of spending. What you spend for one wife, times 10 or more, including on extended families. You must make sure you are sound before you go in for the second or third wife.

Our traditional stool
It means I am the servant of my people. I am working for my people and I am happy discharging my duties. I am happy working for them; it is not easy because they say uneasy lies the head that wears the crown. So, it is not easy for me. You must have a lot of challenges. But remember, challenges make you wise. When you have challenges from people, you get wiser, you get stronger, more powerful. But if you have no challenges, you become powerless; you behave like one of your subjects. I like challenges; I like people challenging me from left, right, everywhere. So, if I can defend and bring them down, then I am a good leader. If I cannot defend them and they bring me down, I am not a good leader.

Most memorable time on the throne
I enjoyed my 16 years on the throne from day one to today. I enjoyed every bit, every day of it, but Ofala days are always special times. My community is very good. They are very nice people, they are educated, they are quiet, they are not troublesome and they have understanding. I am happy throughout the 16 years I have been the king of this kingdom.

Changes in the kingdom
Very, very many changes. They have scholarships, they have light, they have everything. There have been a lot of changes since I became the king. Formerly, they were paying school fees. Today, they don’t pay anything, for over 10 years now. Even foreigners who are here do not pay, provided you pay your community dues or any communal contribution. You have to make it otherwise, your children will not be allowed in the schools. You must contribute; you must work with the community to grow the economy. We like people who work like my people. If you come here in the afternoon, you can’t see anybody here. They are all in the bush, rivers, looking for what to eat.
We have achieved a lot. Scholarships, agriculture, we grow food and grow more and more. We have loans from the government and from myself that make them do more work on their farms. If you go to where we farm now, you will see that we have extended the farms. We are even trying to pay for lands, lease lands from other communities in order to cultivate and do our farming business. The land is even not enough for us to farm.

Future vision for the kingdom
My future vision for my kingdom is to make them happy, make them grow economically and make their future bright. Through this scholarship scheme, I know we will get more educated people and from there, they will now spread to all the other parts of the world. What I want is to make them a big community, big town with rich and educated people. That’s my aim and target.

CHIEF IBIKUNLE ODULANI,A SPIRITUAL LEADER BASED IN MIAMI,FLORIDA STARTS A SERIES ON THE BLACK MAN’S ROLE IN POLYGAMY!

January 14, 2009

(I asked Chief Ibikunle Odunlani,a Spiritual Leader,Polygamist in Miami,Florida to write a series dealing with the Role of the Black man in Polygamy and how to treat all the wives fairly without favoritism. This is the first article.) n1184707824_30309888_2887 POLYGAMY AND THE MAN AND HIS WOMEN
BY CHIEF IBIKUNLE ODULANI,MIAMI FLORIDA

This is in response and solution to the problem:
A man must have confidence within himself and be secure with his surroundings. If he, the husband or even the wife have the insecurities of sexual nature or uses material possessions to sustain their relationship then the relationship will spiral downward.
Chief Odulani

UNDERSTANDING POLYGAMY IS THE FIRST STEP TO SECURE RELATIONS

There have been many discussions about the polygamous society of the Yorubas. If we are to understand the ancient traditional society, we must rebuild or reorientate our thinking and not to substitute the dictionary meaning of polygamy. We must also address the social conditioning of 400 years of separation from traditional values.

Firstly, this system isn’t a excuse for sexually promiscuous relationships, be it instigated by male or female. It is a system of developing the family.

In our contemporary social conditioning, we view things on a worldly or physical level and cannot see the important of “spiritually caring” for each other. Conditioned men use the term, polygamy, to sexual exploit the mothers of their children without respecting them. We find that in traditional society it approved of the multiple wives system, provided it was done in the open and not to the detriment of others. “Without lies or deception”. Most relationships in this society begin with deception and then we sit back and wonder why we cannot have an enduring or secure relationship. Traditionally, there was also a multiple husband system, for a wife was free to leave her husband to take residence as the wife of another man, especially if the first failed to make her fruitful, but it had to be a clean break and in accordance with the custom which did not impose sanctions through the medium of high divorce fees or slander. This is not to be judged as adultery, which is not accepted in the tradition, but the right of the person to receive truth in relationships. Adultery is quite a different matter. This was a contract between God and man, in which any individual culprit necessarily and automatically involved in society-as the organic unit of which that individual is an integral part-in “a crime against the gods such as adultery such society became responsible and the punishment of the gods would be meted out, not simply to the people involved, but to society as a whole. Again it’s necessary to be up-front in ones relationships or face the consequences of your actions.

I don’t believe that most have grown to the point of accepting responsibilities in polygamous relationships. Many who state that they are for this,both men and women, get mid stream and reverse their direction. We must be sincere at the beginning of the affair and not have hidden motives for involvements, e.g., money, titles, alimony or sex, etc. If these are the motives they should be revealed in the beginning of the relationship and no deceit/lies or hidden agendas. If the beginning is in this direction of truth, not only will you have a lasting relationship, but be able to “have your cake and eat it to”, meaning that everything will be shared in harmony.

more to come in my next article: Chief Odulani Ibikunle
can be reached at: odulani@yahoo.com

SISTER DEBORIAH TELLS US WHY SHE SUPPORTS POSITIVE POLYGAMY!

January 5, 2009

I understand the concepts of why a Honorable-Spritual man would have to take on multiple wives. The ultimate goal is to bring back Yah’s people and restore His Nation. The most important piece to it all is to esteem the Most High and give honor to him.

I am a married woman who have most recently come into the knowledge and understanding of “Polygamy” and seeing it as being a necessity within our community, for our people. I have considered this option with my own husband, but I have found that through this test, I failed. I am still somewhat insecure and jealous over my husband. Mainly because of the fear that men tend to walk in their lusts and in their flesh instead of always taking the spiritual approach. That leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

However, I still believe that day must come when our men must rise up as the Lions that they are called to be and lead our people back to the Most High in RIGHTEOUSNESS. My insecurity is something that the Most High is cleansing me out of – Malachai 3:3.

I know speaking as a woman who truly wants to serve the Most High, I have failed by looking to my man who doesn’t have all the answers….so I fault him for his trials and errors….Wrong answer ladies…I am convicted by this. However, I know who he is trying to serve. I have faith that the Father will build us up to where we need to be. We are being refined.

Its not time for our men to be pimps simply cause they think they got it like that, but hopefully our men see that there is truly a spiritual purpose and sincere need for our people; LET IT BE DONE RIGHTEOUSLY. Another problem is that we are having to renew our minds and break away from these ‘GENTILE’ ways. We are literally out of our mindset…part of our curses, so it is a struggle learning who we are supposed to be. The Word of Yah will correct that. Its not totally clear on how polygamy should be handled. This day and age, men in America really would have a much bigger burden in trying to treat all of his wives equally, because of the curses set against them. They barely can care for one family let alone 2, 3 or even 4. The women today would have to be in a lot of prayer and meditation regarding this subject, in order to unite in righteousness.

With that said, I do believe that in Yah’s time, the Most High will mold His people into one synchronous motion towards fulfilling and completing HIS WILL of bringing together this knowledge and understanding of the particular subject at hand.

This is something that would have to be done in righteousness and His will only.

Forcing it today would not work unless all are in one agreement and in synch spiritually. That is very rare… the majority of the women out there are not on the same page with this understanding, and if this is not handled properly it can actually destroy the family more than it can help it.

I think that if the women are spiritually grounded and have ONE mind and understanding for its purpose and regarding its need….truly serving the Most High to rebuild our people and our nation, then they will automatically possess the RESPECT and understanding that is required to come with this type of situation towards the other women in the home…this is regarding women in AMERICA. Not sure about any where else.

When done in the Most High’s will, it will be done in a peaceful manner and everyone will have that understanding and respect that must come with that. This action is not for everyone, but I read ISAIAH 4:1-2 and it was a hard pill for me to swallow, and it still chokes me up around the lung area from time to time..But nonetheless, it is HIS WORD… This is prophetic. Not all the time where the prophets directed to do things that they liked. Look at Ezekial who was commanded to eat over some human DUNG…and I struggle with my insecurity. One would think accepting another woman into our life would be a piece of cake, whats the problem, right?

Pride….However, I do feel that in the time of distress to come, people will begin to see things in a different light and begin to pull together as a nation. Its ineveitable. Ofcourse, those who choose to serve the Most High in Spirit and in Truth are the ones who will serve HIM in righteousness and pull together in this need. Verse 2 is most important, that In that day, it will be comely and esteemed to the Most High, Yah.

Our people are starting to wake up and see that this is needed. As a women, I must say I possess jealously like no other, but I see that the Most High is molding me. I choose to serve Him in spirit and in truth. I pray that one day he will take that jealousy completely away from me so that I can totally serve Him. Right now, I have to work on my insecurity issues within my own self….scars from the past.

I want to serve my Father and be pleasing in His eyes. I want to be that virtuous woman and be that strong servant that HE needs. Because that is what its gonna take to pull us together as a people/nation again, here in America.

I am not there yet…haven’t met my mark, but I am praying to get there. Surely, in todays world, it would make it much easier to deal with other women who are on the same page as me spiritually and have the same understanding. There is no time for women who are about nonsense and competition. A real honorable man would see that that is not healthy for the familyas a whole.

An extended family is just what it is ‘FAMILY’. Can we all just get along?

As was mentioned earlier, not many woman today are willing to humble themselves for this type of situation. Too many independent women and wanna be “Beyonce’s”…..Again, that is why I believe it will have to be done in the Most High’s time and in His will. He will move this nation to pull together eventually. We have a time of distress coming to our people…”Jacob’s Trouble”…..so right now its time to prepare.

I got a little winded, but overall, our brothers will have to eventually step up to the plate in spiritual righteousness which will include taking on additional wives and leading this nation back to Yah. Our children are suffering, many of are men and women are so lost. Something is about to take place.

Us women who are being called, so we might as well get ready for this, because it is to come. I personally wish there were more women out there to discuss this subject with on a spiritual level because it will help us grow in understanding together.

I understand the concepts of why a Honorable-Spritual man would have to take on multiple wives. The ultimate goal is to bring back Yah’s people and restore His Nation. The most important piece to it all is to esteem the Most High and give honor to him.

I am a married woman who have most recently come into the knowledge and understanding of “Polygamy” and seeing it as being a necessity within our community, for our people. I have considered this option with my own husband, but I have found that through this test, I failed. I am still somewhat insecure and jealous over my husband. Mainly because of the fear that men tend to walk in their lusts and in their flesh instead of always taking the spiritual approach. That leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

However, I still believe that day must come when our men must rise up as the Lions that they are called to be and lead our people back to the Most High in RIGHTEOUSNESS. My insecurity is something that the Most High is cleansing me out of – Malachai 3:3.

I know speaking as a woman who truly wants to serve the Most High, I have failed by looking to my man who doesn’t have all the answers….so I fault him for his trials and errors….Wrong answer ladies…I am convicted by this. However, I know who he is trying to serve. I have faith that the Father will build us up to where we need to be. We are being refined.

Its not time for our men to be pimps simply cause they think they got it like that, but hopefully our men see that there is truly a spiritual purpose and sincere need for our people; LET IT BE DONE RIGHTEOUSLY. Another problem is that we are having to renew our minds and break away from these ‘GENTILE’ ways. We are literally out of our mindset…part of our curses, so it is a struggle learning who we are supposed to be. The Word of Yah will correct that. Its not totally clear on how polygamy should be handled. This day and age, men in America really would have a much bigger burden in trying to treat all of his wives equally, because of the curses set against them. They barely can care for one family let alone 2, 3 or even 4. The women today would have to be in a lot of prayer and meditation regarding this subject, in order to unite in righteousness.

With that said, I do believe that in Yah’s time, the Most High will mold His people into one synchronous motion towards fulfilling and completing HIS WILL of bringing together this knowledge and understanding of the particular subject at hand.

This is something that would have to be done in righteousness and His will only.

Forcing it today would not work unless all are in one agreement and in synch spiritually. That is very rare… the majority of the women out there are not on the same page with this understanding, and if this is not handled properly it can actually destroy the family more than it can help it.

I think that if the women are spiritually grounded and have ONE mind and understanding for its purpose and regarding its need….truly serving the Most High to rebuild our people and our nation, then they will automatically possess the RESPECT and understanding that is required to come with this type of situation towards the other women in the home…this is regarding women in AMERICA. Not sure about any where else.

When done in the Most High’s will, it will be done in a peaceful manner and everyone will have that understanding and respect that must come with that. This action is not for everyone, but I read ISAIAH 4:1-2 and it was a hard pill for me to swallow, and it still chokes me up around the lung area from time to time..But nonetheless, it is HIS WORD… This is prophetic. Not all the time where the prophets directed to do things that they liked. Look at Ezekial who was commanded to eat over some human DUNG…and I struggle with my insecurity. One would think accepting another woman into our life would be a piece of cake, whats the problem, right?

Pride….However, I do feel that in the time of distress to come, people will begin to see things in a different light and begin to pull together as a nation. Its ineveitable. Ofcourse, those who choose to serve the Most High in Spirit and in Truth are the ones who will serve HIM in righteousness and pull together in this need. Verse 2 is most important, that In that day, it will be comely and esteemed to the Most High, Yah.

Our people are starting to wake up and see that this is needed. As a women, I must say I possess jealously like no other, but I see that the Most High is molding me. I choose to serve Him in spirit and in truth. I pray that one day he will take that jealousy completely away from me so that I can totally serve Him. Right now, I have to work on my insecurity issues within my own self….scars from the past.

I want to serve my Father and be pleasing in His eyes. I want to be that virtuous woman and be that strong servant that HE needs. Because that is what its gonna take to pull us together as a people/nation again, here in America.

I am not there yet…haven’t met my mark, but I am praying to get there. Surely, in todays world, it would make it much easier to deal with other women who are on the same page as me spiritually and have the same understanding. There is no time for women who are about nonsense and competition. A real honorable man would see that that is not healthy for the familyas a whole.

An extended family is just what it is ‘FAMILY’. Can we all just get along?

As was mentioned earlier, not many woman today are willing to humble themselves for this type of situation. Too many independent women and wanna be “Beyonce’s”…..Again, that is why I believe it will have to be done in the Most High’s time and in His will. He will move this nation to pull together eventually. We have a time of distress coming to our people…”Jacob’s Trouble”…..so right now its time to prepare.

I got a little winded, but overall, our brothers will have to eventually step up to the plate in spiritual righteousness which will include taking on additional wives and leading this nation back to Yah. Our children are suffering, many of are men and women are so lost. Something is about to take place.

Us women who are being called, so we might as well get ready for this, because it is to come. I personally wish there were more women out there to discuss this subject with on a spiritual level because it will help us grow in understanding together.
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THE NIGERIAN POLYGAMIST WITH 86 WIVES HAS BEEN RELEASED ON BAIL-FROM BBC NEWS

November 22, 2008

HUSBAND OF 86 WIVES

HUSBAND OF 86 WIVES

from news.bbc.co.uk

Nigerian with 86 wives released

Mr Bello Abubakar was picked up in a pre-dawn raid
A Nigerian man with 86 wives has been released on bail from police custody 59 days after he was arrested.

Mohammed Bello Abubakar, 84, was arrested by order of an Islamic court for refusing to divorce all but four of his wives.

His lawyer told the BBC Mr Abubakar should never have been arrested and his human rights had been violated.

There is no law against marrying more than one woman in Nigeria and polygamous marriages are common.

But Mr Abubakar’s case has raised eyebrows because of the large number of women he married, and because he claims God told him to do it.

Mr Abubakar, who claims to be descended from royalty, told the BBC in an interview he had flown to heaven and had spoken with the prophet Muhammad who commanded him to take as many wives as he could.

‘Heretic’

He has angered Islamic authorities, who called him a heretic.

One organisation placed a fatwa on him calling for his death, but the penalty was commuted to “banishment”.

He was picked up in a pre-dawn raid on his house in Bida, Niger state, and charged with “insulting religious creed” and “unlawful marriages”.

The charge of unlawful marriage has been dropped.

He had obtained an order from the federal High Court protecting him from being arrested.

A judge will decide in December if the court that charged him violated that order.

Lawyers for Mr Bello Abubakar said he had not broken any law.

Mr Abubakar says there is no punishment stated in the Koran for having more than four wives.

Niger is one of majority Muslim states in Nigeria that have reintroduced Sharia punishments since 2000.

Sharia courts have sentenced several people to death for adultery, but none of these sentences have been carried out.

Muslim scholars agree that it is allowed in Islam to have up to four wives, as long as you treat them equally.

NOW IT’S 87 LAWYERS TO DEFEND THIS STRONG AFRICAN MAN WITH 86 WIVES!-FROM THIS DAY NEWSPAPER,SEPT.21,2008

September 22, 2008

from thisdayonline.com

87 Lawyers to Defend Man With 86 Wives
From George Oji in Kaduna, 09.21.2008

Kaduna-based coalition of rights groups under an umbrella ofa human rights group will represent each of the 86 wives, the 87th counsel would stand in for Pa Masaba himself, who the group has described as prisoner of conscience.
Addressing a press conference in Kaduna at the weekend, lead counsel of the 87 lawyers Mohammed Sanusi said they would remain observers for now in the trial but would step in once their services are needed.
According to Sanusi, the legal services to Pa Masaba by himself and 86 other colleagues of his comes free of charge.
Pa Masaba is being presecuted under Sections 210, 383 and 386 of the Penal Code. He was arraigned last week before the Sharia Court and orderd to be detained, an action the rights groups are picking holes from.
Sanusi explained that “putting Masaba in jail without granting him bail on the first day he was presented before the Upper Sharia Court , to us, is a breach of his fundamental human rights.”
He said “Even the Constitution of Nigeria, Section 36 sub-section 5 presumes him to be innocent.
Accordding to Sanusi, “As it is now, since Masaba did not plead guilty to the allegations against him, he should be taken to be innocent and under all the provisions of the law, that is the Penal Code, he was arraigned before the Upper Sharia Court , he has the right to be granted bail. But for him now to be refused bail, shows that there is something fishy and that is why we believe the Civil Rights Congress has come in.”
According to the group the first step Pa Masaba’s ought to have taken would have been to ascertain from him reasons why he married the many wives and if this fails to satisfy them before they would proceed with the lefal option.
“He may have explanations for his actions and if the offences alleged against him are purely under the Islamic Law, he needs not be prosecuted under the Penal Code. Under the Islamic Law, there are specific provisions under which he could be prosecuted and I believe even our constitution approves that.
“So, if he’s going to be prosecuted under the Penal Code, then he should be granted bail. At least they have to consider many things, including his age, his enormous responsibilities to his family, more than one hundred children, his wives and other dependants around. All these things ought to have been considered before remanding Masaba in prison,” the groups explained.
While not disputing the obligations of the Niger State government to have initiated the Pa Masaba’s prosecution Sanusi argued that, “The Niger State Government has the right to complain but their complaint is on whose behalf? Their complaints must be on behalf of the children or the wives or even the relatives of these wives or their parents. That is the provision of the law. So, who is the complainant?
“If the police or the government are complaining for the purpose of public peace, such public peace is on whose interest? Has anybody reported that the man has encroached on anybody’s land for farming to take care of his family? There has not been anything like that. Has anyone complained that the man stole anything from anybody for the purpose of feeding his family? So, prosecuting the man is not in anybody’s interest.
“If they want to prosecute for perhaps offending one of the provisions of the Quran or the Hadith, these are laws, he should be prosecuted purely under these laws in the Quran and not under the Penal Code.
“If you are bringing him under the Penal Code, then it’s becoming the interest of Nigerians, it’s becoming the interest of the law. But if it’s purely under Islamic Law, we have the provisions of the Hadith and those of the Quran. And if somebody views a situation that this is what he thinks, he may be right and he may be wrong, based on his own belief or his own interpretation.”
According to Sanusi, “Our first action in this matter is that we are going to file a motion on notice to get this man out of the prison, at least to give him back his freedom and to respect his rights. After getting him out of the prison, we’ll now proceed to file preliminary objections to the entire case itself to be struck out because it’s not genuine because under Section 141 of the Criminal Procedure Code, as I said earlier and I still maintain my stand that there must be a human being that must have complained under these Sections 383 and 386 of the Penal Code.
“And if no human being has complained about his act and if he’s to be prosecuted under the Penal Code, the action is void altogether. So, we are going to file preliminary objection to strike out the case against him. That is what we intend to do and that is why the CRC has cause to go into the case to observe and then take the proper actions. We are filing the motion on Monday at the Upper Sharia Court, Minna.”

“NIGERIA:WIVES,CHILDREN OF MAN WITH 86 WIVES PROTEST IN MINNA(NIGERIA)”-FROM ALLAFRICA.COM SEPT.2008

September 22, 2008

from allafrica.com

Nigeria: Wives, Children of Man With 86 Wives Protest in Minna – Leadership
Fifty wives and 23 children of Alhaji Bello Masaba on Thursday stormed the Niger State secretariat in Minna to protest what they called the “illegal detention” of their bread winner.
COMMENTS:
Author: baysol2000
Why can’t they just leave this man alone! He lay his bed let him suffer the consequence! Where were the superfine islamists when he got his fouth wife?

Weren’t they suppose to councel him and preach the tenet of islam to him then? People must desist from doing the job of Allah for him, thereby in themselves commiting crime in murder of the innocent and like in this case illegal incaceration of a freeman.

Let him go back to his problems, this is nobody’s business, as none of this superfine islamists can boast of feeding his wives and children, neither is he to my knowledge a burden to the state, shikena!

Author: mazianyaogu
AS LONG AS YHE POLYGAMIST’S WIVES,AND CHILDREN ARE NOT PUBLIC CHARGE TO THE STATE,AND OUR CONSTITUTION DOES NOT OUTLAW MULTIPLE WIVES,THE DETAINTION OF THE MAN IS A VIOLATION OF HIS CIVIL RIGHTS,AND HE HAS RIGHT TO SUE THE GOVT.

THIS STRONG AFRICAN MAN HAS 86 WIVES AND HIS STATE GOV’T IS TAKING HIM TO COURT FOR IT!

September 22, 2008

FROM vanguard newspapers originally but found at allafrica.com

Nigeria: Man with 86 wives: Northern Human Rights Groups Accuse Niger Government of Persecution

Vanguard (Lagos)

21 September 2008
Posted to the web 22 September 2008

Emeka Mamah and Wole Mosadomi

Human rights groups in the north have faulted the trial of Islamic cleric, Bello Masaba, under the Penal Code law instead of Islamic law saying that the case is not genuine and accused the Niger State Government of persecuting the 84 year-old man, for marrying 86 wives.

Lead counsel to the Coalition of Human Rights, Mohammed Sanusi, who made their position known at a news conference in Kaduna, weekend, also faulted the non-admission of Alhaji Masaba to bail as the offences which he is alleged to have committed are bailable. Sanusi said the legal team would file a motion tomorrow, for the case to be struck out as the government has no genuine intentions in prosecuting Masaba.

Masaba was arraigned before an Upper Sharia Court in Minna for allegedly marrying 86 wives, contrary to Islamic tenets. His wives and children, however, protested the trial of their breadwinner saying that they did not complain to anybody that Alhaji Masaba cannot take care of his large family.

Sanusi said, “I’m the lead counsel and representative of human rights groups under the auspices of Civil Rights Congress. We are ready to provide our services to all the 86 wives and Masaba himself. Our observations in respect of his case, more particularly the offences alleged against Masaba. The offences were quoted under sections 210, 383 and 386 of the Penal Code.

“Since these offences were quoted under the Penal Code and not purely under Islamic Laws, there must be a complainant. But in this matter, who is the complainant? Under all these sections of the Penal Code, there must be a human being that must have complained of any offence, of any act or of any wrong against Masaba himself. The complainants should be his wives and children but unfortunately, his wives are not complaining. Recently, they even protested at the Ministry of Justice and the House of Assembly in Niger State against the detention of Masaba. The question now is: who is the complainant?”

Continuing, he said, “Let us take it that the government, the police or the local government or even the Emir are the complainants now, but in whose interest? The whole thing still goes back to the wives and children. But they have never complained against the man. And more importantly, putting Masaba in jail without granting him bail on the first day he was presented before the Upper Sharia Court, to us, is a breach of his fundamental human rights. Even the Constitution of Nigeria, Section 36 (5) presumes him to be innocent. As it is now, since Masaba did not plead guilty to the allegations against him, he should be taken to be innocent. Under the provisions of the law, that is the Penal Code, he has the right to be granted bail.

“But for him now to be refused bail, it shows that there is something fishy and that is why we decided to intervene in the matter. He may have explanations for his actions and if the offences alleged against him are purely under the Islamic Law, he needs not be prosecuted under the Penal Code. Under the Islamic Law, there are specific provisions under which he could be prosecuted and I believe even our constitution approves that. So, if he is going to be prosecuted under the Penal Code, then he should be granted bail. At least they have to consider many things, including his age, his enormous responsibilities to his family, more than one hundred children, his wives and other dependants.”

According to Sanusi, “By God’s grace we are going to do our best to render all the legal services we can provide to protect the rights of Masaba and his wives. The legal services we are going to render to Masaba will be purely on humanitarian grounds. So, it is going to be free. The Niger State Government has the right to complain but on whose behalf are they complaining? Their complaints must be on behalf of the children or the wives or even the relatives of these wives or their parents. If the police or the government is complaining for the purpose of public peace, such public peace is on whose interest? Has anybody reported that the man has encroached on anybody’s land for farming to take care of his family?

‘If they want to prosecute for, perhaps, offending one of the provisions of the Quran or the Hadith, these are laws; he should be prosecuted purely under these laws in the Quran and not under the Penal Code. If you are bringing him under the Penal Code, then it has become the interest of Nigerians or the law. Even under Islamic Law, there is provision to render defence to an accused. We are not saying he should not be prosecuted but it must be through due legal process. If you look at the whole issue, that man has been getting married, and the people who gave him their daughters knew that the man was married to several other women. So, why can’t those people too be prosecuted? They have aided and abetted him and so have committed the same offence. So, if we are to actually prosecute, a lot of people will be involved too. The case should be struck out because it is not genuine, under Section 141 of the Criminal Procedure Code.”

Meanwhile, Muslim youths in Bida, home of the octogenarian, Alhaji Abubarkar Belo Massaba with 86 wives and over 100 children, took to the streets of Bida on Friday with placards not only to disown his action but to pass a death sentence (Fatwah) on him.

Association of Muslim Lawyers of Nigeria, in a press conference in Minna, yesterday, also vowed to give free legal service to the Shariah commission in the on-going legal battle between the commission and Alhaji Massaba.

In Bida, after the youths had embarked on the peaceful demonstration carrying placards with inscriptions such as, “Massaba must die”, “Bello is not a Muslim”, “Bello must vacate Bida town”, ended up at the Bida local government secretariat to exhibit their anger to the chairman of the council who was represented by his vice, Alhaji Bako Ndayawo.

Speaking at the secretariat, the leader of the Muslim youths, Abdulrahman Aboki, said they had passed fatwah on Massaba “because he has blasphemed both God and Prophet Mohammed and he deserves to die”. He, however, said the sentence could be lifted if he repents by divorcing his wives and reducing them to four as proscribed by Islamic injunctions, adding that, most of the children were born outside wedlock.

The protesters were shepherded by heavily armed policemen as they went round the town. Immediate past chairman of the council, Mallam Edota, who also addressed the youths, threw his weigh behind them, saying, “Even if Massaba is released, he should be banished from Bida because he is not part of us”.

The Association of Muslim Lawyers, in their press conference in Minna addressed by its National President, Alhaji Dauda Adekola described Massaba as, “not part of us because he is not a true Moslem”.

While condemning the human rights groups for supporting the octogenarian, the lawyers described them as hypocrites and should hands off the case.


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