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BLACK VIRGINITY!–This Yoruba GIRL STANDS UP for VIRGINITY!–FROM THE NATION NEWSPAPER,NIGERIA

April 19, 2013

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These South African Virgins Are Celebrating Their after being TESTED!

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The term “virginity” has returned to be the discourse in certain circles. Coming in an age when obnoxious words reign supreme, of course, it could not have come at a better time.

Nowadays, it is hard to define who is a virgin in the real meaning of the word. The general meaning of the word “virgin” refers to a girl who keeps her chastity. Such a girl can be said not to have slept with the opposite sex at the time of being called a virgin.

However, people believe that such a girl is scarce in today’s world. Much emphasis is not placed on male virginity because the gender does not have hymen. The attention is on women.

According to an online statistics, 95 per cent of Nigerian teenagers cannot boast of being virgins. In an era where premarital and casual sex abound, girls who are as young as 14 have started experimenting with the forbidden fruit, causing an upsurge in teen pregnancies and abortions. Such act has also resulted in psychological breakdowns with the rejection of unwanted children.

There are many factors that contribute to the sexual decadence in our society. It should be noted that the mass media, which has, over the years, served as a source of socialisation, also has its negative effect on the society and the people. The media’s portrayal of sexual images to an already vulnerable audience has helped to increase the level of decadence.

Corporate advertisers are particularly guilty of this; bits of sensuality are infused into every advert they place or show on television. Even when it is not necessary, they employ skimpily dressed girls to advertise their products, passing a wrong message to the audience.

Peer pressure is also a factor. Teenagers, who do not indulge in the practice, are seen as greenhorns by their peers, who have had the experience. In order not to be the butt of jokes among their friends, some teenagers make wrong decisions.

Today’s forms of entertainment are also to blame. Songs with weird lyrics are the favourites of the young. Some of them would say: “We only love the beat; we don’t practise the message”. But, in reality, the songs are like radioactive wastes; they slowly destroy whoever listens to them. There is no way a 14-year-old girl would listen to songs, such as Lay on me, without having certain thoughts.

Some people have argued that virginity is not important in this globalisation age, claiming that in the olden days, girls married relatively early as soon as they reached puberty. Such early marriages, they argued, kept promiscuity at bay.

However, times and civilisation have changed the practice. Nowadays, the first 20 years of any girl are spent in the classroom. But, by that age, her features would have developed. It is reasonable for an unmarried 25-year -old woman to be sexually active.

It is so bad that many teenagers know some things about sex, which their parents probably might never know. A newspaper cartoon was circulated sometime ago, where a man was seen telling his teenage son that it was time for sex education. The boy answered: “Sure, what part do you want to know, daddy?”

Everyone has a reason for making certain decisions but it would be advantageous if such decisions are not based on external influence. Abstinence is the surest way of preventing sexually-transmitted diseases. The slogan “abstinence is the best method to prevent diseases” attests to this fact.

My advice to teenagers and the youth is that they must abstain from premarital sex. And those who are still chaste, should maintain this status. We must not allow ourselves to be the butt of jokes in the society.

There is a Yoruba adage that says anything that is protected doesn’t lose its value. We must not be deceived by the argument that virginity is an outdated value. It is not; it is a value we must nurture to ensure our society is free of decadence.

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>BLACK VIRGINITY! – BEHOLD,NIGERIAN VIRGINS!- FROM THE NATIONONLINENG.NET

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BLACK VIRGINS ALL-AND PROUD TO BE!  


VIRGINITY!-AN AFRICAN VALUE THAT STILLS LIVES!-LET’S BRING IT BACK AGAIN COMPLETELY!

By Yeye Akilimali Funua Olade

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Behold Nigerian virgin!
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Virgins during the testing programme
Girls proud to be virgins confidently offered themselves for tests at Ekemode Memorial Hospital and Women’s Infirmary, Surulere, Lagos as the Nigeria virgins celebration organised by Princess Adunni Adediran marked its third anniversary. The virginity tests were done by Dr Ade Ekemode, an experienced gynaecologist and involved 45 young women from across the country.
Three years ago, Adediran launched her campaign to help Nigerian girls keep their virginity and avoid unwanted pregnancies, diseases such as HIV/AIDS, syphilis, barrenness and broken homes. Above all, she wanted them to be chaste, protect their virginity for their husbands, to honour and give them respect.”
According to her: “Women and innocent girls are always on the receiving end.The girls are lured into prostitution, put in the family way and made barren as a result of infection or induced dangerous abortion that could affect their future; while during the burial of the men or the so called husband the wife would be surprised when the children her husband had out of wedlock come to attend the burial service. We have seen many.”
Giving reasons why young girls should keep their virginity, the princess said “charity begins at home, my daughter who is now a practising lawyer is still a virgin. I have to practise what I preach and I am proud that our girls are beginning to understand what we are saying ‘’.
Dr Ekemode praised the girls for keeping their virginity, and advised them to keep it till their wedding day. “In Nigeria now we are proud to still have some of our young girls who believe in chastity. Pre spent 41years in the profession and I am proud that we still have some of our children that are decent.”
Love David (22), from Okokomaiko, Lagos, said she came to do the test to prove to the world that she is clean and would not have sex until her wedding day. “I will keep my virginity until I meet the man who is ready to pay my bride price,’’ she asserted.
Augusta Aishen from Delta state said she is a student of River State University where she is studying computer science. She heard the news of the virginity test over the radio. “My mother is a cosmetologist and my father is an engineer, they trained me not to destroy or spoil my life because of any boy or man. I am happy that my parents trust me and they even paid my fare to come to Lagos for the test,” she told The Nation.
Akada Ikada (22), a mass communication student, Olabisi Onabanjo University, Ogun State, described the medical test as the best way to prove virginity “I will keep my virginity until I am ripe enough to marry,” she said, adding that she wasn’t ashamed of being a virgin.
Awawu Ismail, a devout Muslim who was dressed in a hijab, said, Islam respects chastity. “Islam respects virginity and we have to keep ourselves until the day we are going to get married. I am proud to say that I am a virgin.
Others who came for the test include; Olawumi Opelola from Oyo state,Ajayi Oluwabukola, Oluwatoyin Vincent, Suliat Suberu, Islamyat Yisa,Mukoro Juliet, Ibirogba Ololade, Blessing Paul, , Mariam Bello.
Hajiya Basirat Yusuf said the virginity test was not painful. “They will only ask you to remove your undies and the doctor would check to confirm one’s virginity and that is all’’ she said.
Some mothers who came to witness the occasion were happy to see their daughters participating in the programme. Madam Muyidat Bello, (mother of Mariam) said it was a great programme the government at the local, and state levels should contribute to. Madam Bello said when she heard over the radio that there would be a virginity test, her daughter, Muyidat beat her chest that she is a virgin and she came with her to ascertain the truth. “When the doctor confirmed her virginity, I was happy and I love my daughter the more. She is brilliant and it is because there is no money for her university education that she has not gone to school; yet she did not go into prostitution because of our poverty level.”
Adediran who started the programme said, “They called me many names, some said I wanted to use the girls’ virginity for ritual to make money while some said I wanted to be a trafficker. I received nasty, abusive text messages but in the end most of the parents appreciated what I am doing.”
Now that her programme is gaining credibility, she wants support from government. “I want the state and local government to be involved and assist my programme for it is the first time such thing would be organised,” she said. “I am using my own money to finance the programme as many of the girls who wanted to participate had no money and I paid their transportation fare this year. I want private organizations to support us. I have been ejected from the office I was using before and I need an office’’ the woman stated.
Virgins during the testing programme

BLACK GIRLS KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY-IT IS YOUR TREASURE FOR YOUR HUSBAND AND BRINGS YOU VIRTUE!

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BLACK VIRGINITY! -LET’S GO BACK TO IT AND SAVE BLACK GIRLS FROM SHAME AND UNHAPPINESS!
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Virgin Girl – Keep Your Virginity, Gain Self Esteem
A virgin girl may not appreciate what she has. Some girls actually loose their virginity because of peer pressure. They give away their virginity just to fit in, just to belong.

Here’s some great news.

Contrary to what your friends say, being a virgin girl is perfectly normal. You’re perfectly normal as a virgin. You won’t fall ill because you didn’t have sex before twenty one. You won’t even get sick if you don’t have sex before thirty five.

Another thing. You don’t have to play along with your friends to do evil in other to feel great about yourself. You don’t have to belong to a certain circle of friends to be important.

You can achieve what you want to achieve and be anything you want to be without having to follow the wrong crowd. Self-esteem is a thing of the mind. If you feel good about yourself no one can put you down.

This is important because many young girls have veered into sexual misconduct simply to please their friends or to be rated as mature by friends.

Some other college girls have been lured to sexual misbehavior because they fear they may get sick if they do not have sex before they are twenty.

This may all sound silly and irrational to you. But ignorance breeds fear.

To compound matters, many parents do not feel comfortable discussing sexual matters with their children. When children ask questions relating to sexuality, many parents skim over the subject or dodge it outright.

That doesn’t help your children.

Since parents often fail to carry out their responsibility to their children, these innocent children turn to their peers for answers. And the answers they get are often distorted and far from the truth.

The result?

Pregnant teens, troubled teens, and reckless teens that become depressed adults. These depressed adults eventually become a nuisance to society.

You young woman reading this, I have this simple advice for you.

Do not join your friends to experiment with sex. It is like walking on red hot coal. Your legs will get burnt.

If you are a virgin girl, maintain your virginity. Your virginity is a source of pride to your parents. And when you get married as a virgin girl, your husband will be extremely proud of you.

Remaining a virgin girl until you marry establishes your marriage on sound footing of trust. Your husband knows he can trust you because you have self-discipline and love of righteousness.

It takes self-discipline, self-control, and love of God to stay morally upright in this decadent generation. When you are able to do that and maintain your virginity straight to marriage you gain self-esteem as a woman of substance.

Besides, you save yourself the trauma your wayward schoolmates experience. You save yourself the pain of teen pregnancy and fatherless baby. And you save yourself the pain of a wasted life.

Your friends are wrong when they say virginity is archaic and dark age morality.

Remaining a virgin girl is a thing of pride. As a virgin you can hold your head high anywhere you go. You have no need of shame.

You have self-confidence, self-esteem, poise and a feeling of fulfillment.

Wouldn’t you rather remain an innocent virgin girl and enjoy such honor than be tossed about because your stomach is bulging with pregnancy for a baby who has no father?

Yeah. I know you will do the right thing.

However, there are certain mistakes that young people your age make that undermine their decision to remain a virgin girl.

Young girls tend to be avid readers of romance stories.

Romance stories tend to create sexual passion and often cause their readers especially women to fantasize about life with Mr. Perfect.

These girls feel the passion in the stories and wish for a life just like that in the stories. The romance in the romance novels results in a buildup of sexual fantasy in many girls. A regular dose of sexual fantasy eventually results in a desire for the real thing.

Then what?

Your guess is as good as mine.

Yes, romance novels make interesting reading. But many teach values that derail youths by creating desires that lead them astray.

Do you really want to remain a virgin girl?

Then stay clear of material that arouse your sexual desires. If you don’t, you will have trouble maintaining your virginity and self-esteem.

Make the right choice. It’s your life.

read more: https://yeyeolade.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/black-virginity-lets-go-back-to-this-african-cultural-standard-and-save-our-black-girls-from-hearbreak-and-shame/

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« Reply #1 on: February 05, 2011, 01:28:09 AM »

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« Reply #3 on: February 05, 2011, 07:18:53 AM »

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« Reply #4 on: February 05, 2011, 07:25:02 AM »

response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.
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« Reply #5 on: February 05, 2011, 07:38:40 AM »

response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.

The way movies and romantic novels play out sex scenes and romantic ‘love making’ makes me wonder like shittt i hope the guy’s expectations of getting it on with me aren’t a refelction of what we being shown on tv etc.. Undecided cos he’ll be sadly mistaken lol.  Tongue

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« Reply #6 on: February 05, 2011, 07:46:30 AM »

response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.

The way movies and romantic novels play out sex scenes and romantic ‘love making’ makes me wonder like shittt i hope the guy’s expectations of getting it on with me aren’t a refelction of what we being shown on tv etc.. Undecided cos he’ll be sadly mistaken lol.  Tongue

i always think the same thing!  i be thinking “people are waaaayyyy to FREAKY when it comes to sex…i ain’t doing all that sh*t.” Embarrassed  i refuse to hang upside down, handcuff to a chandelier trying to have sex! Tongue

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response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.

The way movies and romantic novels play out sex scenes and romantic ‘love making’ makes me wonder like shittt i hope the guy’s expectations of getting it on with me aren’t a refelction of what we being shown on tv etc.. Undecided cos he’ll be sadly mistaken lol.  Tongue

i always think the same thing!  i be thinking “people are waaaayyyy to FREAKY when it comes to sex…i ain’t doing all that sh*t.” Embarrassed  i refuse to hang upside down, handcuff to a chandelier trying to have sex! Tongue

Hahaha Dawn ur crazy, but your right just because i did gymnastics as a child doesnt mean am all bendy and can do some crazy sex positions or something lol  Tongue

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« Reply #8 on: February 05, 2011, 09:41:22 AM »

response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.

The way movies and romantic novels play out sex scenes and romantic ‘love making’ makes me wonder like shittt i hope the guy’s expectations of getting it on with me aren’t a refelction of what we being shown on tv etc.. Undecided cos he’ll be sadly mistaken lol.  Tongue

i always think the same thing!  i be thinking “people are waaaayyyy to FREAKY when it comes to sex…i ain’t doing all that sh*t.” Embarrassed  i refuse to hang upside down, handcuff to a chandelier trying to have sex! Tongue

I would willingly do some of that stuff for my HUSBAND.

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Get your FREAK on Saturn    Tongue Tongue Tongue
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« Reply #10 on: February 05, 2011, 11:00:41 AM »

lol @ Saturn…

yes people can be crazy with sex these days…i noticed in the late 90s that love scenes in movies started becoming more rough and aggressive. back in the day, loves scenes used to slow, sweet and sexy, now a days its just wham bam, slam the woman against the wall, get in between her legs and go to town…i mean it’s ridiculous. Where is the romance, where is the love?

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« Reply #11 on: February 05, 2011, 12:58:55 PM »

response to the original post – it talks about staying away from fantasy and romantic novels.  i also  want to add that this country is set up to feed sex to you all of the time.  all of the tv show and movies, even commercials and cartoons are filled with sexual suggestive behavior and language.  all of those things make being a virgin more difficult…especially for boys and men.  they then get all of these desires built up inside of them, and they know the only way they can get the girls to have sex with them (without marriage) is to lie to them so they can get what they want.

I agree, especially when there is a lack of parental moral guidance. Gratuitous sex is like gratuitous foul language in entertainment…both are usually unnecessary if you have a good story to tell. I am no angel. I sometimes have a foul mouth when I get angry, but it is not something that we should aspire to when making “cultural contributions.”


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